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        04-29-2011, 07:39 PM
      #1
    Weanling
    Uhmmmmm...

    So I just called one of the trainers that are going to be at the ranch I am volunteering at to let her know that I was coming by on sunday, and I didn't get a very happy response.

    She at first said that she was lost and she said that she doesn't understand why she needs to know and that she is going to be teaching lessons all day and how she isn't interested in volunteer work, and frankly I'm a little bit turned off by what she said and how she said it.. It is PERFECTLY fine with me if she does not have the time or the need to see me, but I don't think she had to throw it back out in my face that way.. I even told her that it was fine that I don't do anything and that I can just sit in and watch but I insisted that I was just informing her, because I was told my her boss (jesse, the BO) to do so.

    And it was HOW she said it too, she sounded angry and she said "this is just how jesse works sometimes I don't understand why he would think that I would be able to see you on sunday." And it came to the point where there was nothing more for me to say to comfort her (yes I actually had to sort of comfort her in a way) and all I could say was "okay.." and she sounded apologetic at the last minute, but seriously......

    I dunno it doesn't sound right to me. I understand where she's coming from and I'd be a little bit mad too but to sort of refuse me like that was a bit rude... now I am having second thoughts on even showing up on sunday.... :(
         
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        04-29-2011, 07:46 PM
      #2
    Yearling
    I would still show up. I know that she was rude to you, but since her boss is expecting you and it is him you are volunteering for and not her I would not worry about it too much.
         
        04-29-2011, 07:50 PM
      #3
    Weanling
    Quote:
    Originally Posted by SMCLeenie    
    I would still show up. I know that she was rude to you, but since her boss is expecting you and it is him you are volunteering for and not her I would not worry about it too much.
    Yeah I know but he had asked me to contact her, and he may or may not be there so I am not sure... Should I call him and talk to him about it?
         
        04-29-2011, 08:07 PM
      #4
    Weanling
    And the other problem is - what am I even volunteering for if it's "not needed" I just want to learn a thing or two about horses and how they work. I'm just a little bit confused as to why they wouldn't be interested in extra help around the place and why only one person is interested in showing me the ropes. I don't think he even informed them about teaching me how to ride FOR FREE in exchange for volunteer help. At least I don't think that this particular trainer would be too thrilled about it..

    If I'm just going there to bother some people then I wouldn't be interested but I personally don't care if I'm bothering anyone the only reason I'm going to be there is for the horses.
         
        04-29-2011, 08:14 PM
      #5
    Yearling
    As I like to say, leave it be. Go there as expected on Sunday, be polite to everyone, and if anyone says anything just say that their boss already gave you permission.

    This is a GREAT opportunity, don't let it pass you by because someone was hissy at you.

    If they push you too much you'll be working in the barn and I'm sure you'll know a good path for revenge...

    Just Kidding!

    Yeah....just kidding...
         
        04-29-2011, 08:24 PM
      #6
    Weanling
    Lol, by working in the barn do you mean picking up horse poop? I'm down. And accidentally mistake their face for a poop chute.

    I am going to show up. I'm an insecure person though. I contacted the other trainer and she was polite but she works around 5pm on thursdays, which is my other day off but, sundays are preferable.. I guess it just irks me that she had to respond that way, like it was my fault. It made me feel bad :( but its just my hormones talking.
         
        04-29-2011, 08:37 PM
      #7
    Banned
    I think you are taking this way to seriously. This woman is probably very busy and is thinking that you are going to be following her around all day Sunday nagging her with questions and begging her to ride. Go out Sunday and prove her wrong. Do everything she asks of you, be seen and not heard and thank her for the opportunity at the end of the day. Lesson barns can be big business. Stay low, help where you can and learn.
         
        04-29-2011, 08:43 PM
      #8
    Weanling
    Quote:
    Originally Posted by corinowalk    
    I think you are taking this way to seriously. This woman is probably very busy and is thinking that you are going to be following her around all day Sunday nagging her with questions and begging her to ride. Go out Sunday and prove her wrong. Do everything she asks of you, be seen and not heard and thank her for the opportunity at the end of the day. Lesson barns can be big business. Stay low, help where you can and learn.
    Like I said, its that time of the month, lol.. I take everything seriously at this time..

    I completely understand that she is busy and I let her know and insisted that I would basically back off and watch. But even then she still had an attitude. I am going to do as you said - which is basically the same thing I did yesterday when I went there for the first time.. I'm not worried, I just didn't really expect her to react that way. Something is lying beneath it but, I don't think I should care or be involved in whatever drama goes on. I just want to get the job done and do my best and learn every chance that I get.
         
        04-29-2011, 08:48 PM
      #9
    Banned
    Boarding/lesson barns are a breeding ground for drama. Chances are, this boils down to something between the trainer and the BO. Either way, stay out of it. Learn what you can and if it isn't a good fit, find another barn. Most barns in my area are jumping at free help.
         
        04-29-2011, 08:51 PM
      #10
    Weanling
    Quote:
    Originally Posted by corinowalk    
    Boarding/lesson barns are a breeding ground for drama. Chances are, this boils down to something between the trainer and the BO. Either way, stay out of it. Learn what you can and if it isn't a good fit, find another barn. Most barns in my area are jumping at free help.
    Luckily this isn't going to be the only place I will be volunteering at. There is a private arabian farm around the corner from the ranch that I will be dedicating my time and effort to. It is smaller, but it felt pleasant.
         

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