My horse recently died, and my mother and my trainer told me that I should call and let his previous owner know. I'm not so good at breaking bad news, (I tend to sound too callous, :( and I also still don't like talking about my horse's death) so I asked if someone else could do it. My mom and my trainer both both kind of mumbled and edged away when I asked.
I know why they did that. It is because my horse's previous owner was well, a little...obsessive. She did not want to let go, and for awhile after I bought him I was kind of afraid she would show up where I boarded him. I've known some people who were like her, and I knew that if I kept in contact with her she would take that as a green light to involve herself with my life. (especially since she lives only an hour away)
I do know where my mom and my trainer are coming from, and if the previous owner was more...normal...I wouldn't mind contacting her. But honestly, I'm afraid of her reaction, and I know that they are too. That is why they won't help me. I know the former owner has no right to any information regarding the horse, and that I have no obligation to provide her with any...but still. I'm naturally a nice person, so I'm very torn. What should I do? :(