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        07-15-2009, 11:49 PM
      #1
    Foal
    upset.

    The horse I own right now is not for me. I've taught him everything I can, and he's taught me. I just don't think we're right for each other anymore. Has anyone ever felt this before?
    Now, my horse is nothing special. He's hot, but loves to jump, older, but has tons of energy. I'm not trying to sell anything to anyone, I'm just looking for an ear that I don't have. He is 17 or older, cribs, has arthritis, and is a hard keeper. He also requires shoes. However, he's got a personality. He is bored with life right now, I can tell. He used to be so excited to be ridden, to eat. Now all he gets excited for is jumping, which he is limited to because of age and condition.
    I've been trying a bunch of ways to sell him. We're really just not right for each other, otherwise i'd keep him! One person came to look at him, but she was looking for something more bombproof. Understandable. A few people emailed me, but none came to look, and 3 were scammers. I'm really just frustrated.
    So I talked to my best barn friend and my barn owner, both 17, and both close to my age. They are both very "practical horse people". I think they have less feelings towards the horse than most. They don't mind twitching or smacking when the horse deserves it. They aren't abusive, just "real". I asked them what to do about my horse, practically in tears. They both told me to send him up to the New Holland Auction the next week.
    This is the last thing I wanted to hear. For one, New Holland cheapskates owners. The horse never goes for its real value, obviously, because its an auction. But secondly, I had talked to my friend about this before and she said that she honestly thought that if I took him there, the slaughterhouse people would take him. I couldn't do that to my first horse. I bought him with my own personal money, worked my butt of to get money for his upkeep, and loved him. I have sacrificed almost my whole life for horses. But I really want to sell him. I'm not trying to be a selfish brat, really. I'm just saying that I feel like I'm wasting my time with him anymore. That I could be moving ahead with another horse. Call me selfish, but this is just what I believe.

    Any thoughts or suggestions are greatly appreciated, but mostly just someone to read my story would be amazing.
         
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        07-16-2009, 12:03 AM
      #2
    Started
    That completely makes sense. I'm selling one of mine because she's not happy as a trail horse - she wants an arena and a job and I'm not prepared to give her that right now.

    It is better for you and for the horse that he finds a new home.

    Have you thought about maybe giving him away as a companion horse. I mean, ideally I'm sure you'd like to make money, but if you aren't comfortable with sending him to auction, it might be your best bet.

    Maybe look into rescues that could take him - and explain your situation.

    I don't think you're being selfish. I think you're being honest. You just need to find a way to give him a new home - even if it means doing so for free.
         
        07-16-2009, 01:38 AM
      #3
    Started
    IMO you should never give any kind of animal away for free. There are many reasons for this (and I don't want to get into all of that), but an animal that is free has no value and is often treated accordingly. Knock your price down some....I don't know what your asking, but horses in today's economy are not worth much. Advertise in as many places as you can. There are newspapers, vets offices, with your local farriers, at your local tack shop...etc. A lot of rescue places are full right now...it's a tough time for horses and humans alike! It is your responsibility to find that horse a good home before you move on. Don't get me wrong...I think that if you and your horse aren't working out, then I think you should part ways. I'm just saying that you must first take responsibility for the horse you have. I know it's tough to sell a horse in today's market...but keep trying, you will find a buyer. Good for you for not taking your horse to the auction! That tells me that you care about your horse and want what's best for him. Just don't give up.
         
        07-16-2009, 01:41 AM
      #4
    Started
    That is very true - but it can work out to give a horse for free if your do your homework.
         
        07-16-2009, 03:06 AM
      #5
    Weanling
    Maybe you can find someone to lease him. Do a "free" lease where they pay for his upkeep and board, but don't have to actually buy the horse. Then if it doesn't work out they don't have to try to sell a horse. Put it in writing though....who pays the vet, who is responsible for what, is it month to month lease, etc, etc,..... And keep yourself freed up enough that you can take over on him if they back out.
         
        07-16-2009, 11:08 AM
      #6
    Showing
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    Originally Posted by LeahKathleen    
    That is very true - but it can work out to give a horse for free if your do your homework.
    I think it would be a great idea. Unfortunately I think it would be very difficult for you to find a home for an older horse who is still hot. Most people who are willing to settle with an older also want a horse who is bombproof.

    I hope you look into rescues and giving him away as a companion horse. He deserves a good retirement.
         
        07-16-2009, 11:10 AM
      #7
    Yearling
    You may be able to find someone you can trade for another horse that is more suited to your needs. Post on Craigslist that you are looking to trade for such and such type of horse, and you might find your match, and help someone else find theirs!
         
        07-16-2009, 05:58 PM
      #8
    Green Broke
    I think it is an absolutely reasonable decision. You are doing what you feel is best for you and your horse and I applaud you for that. There is no shame in giving him away. I recently was toying with the idea of selling my mare as well, just because we really don't get along that well. I ended up not selling her for unexplainable reasons but I can definitely relate to the feelings you are having and how confusing it is.

    However, I do not agree with the poster who said that you should never give a horse away because that means they aren't worth anything. When circumstances make it impossible to sell, or you just want to find the right home for your horse without people getting turned away by numbers, giving the horse away is completely understandable. I recently aquired my new mare as a givaway on another forum. The woman had "irreconcilable differences" with the horse and they just didn't get along. But, she is one of the best horses I have ever had and she is worth her weight in gold to me. So, no. Giving a horse away does not mean they are worthless nor does it mean to the buyer that you feel that way.

    I gave my rescue project away to a man that wanted a roping horse prospect. He has a great home now and I don't regret giving him away at all.

    I personally would rather put my horse to sleep rather than send it to an auction. You never know who is going to bid, and at auctions around here, they are usually kill buyers.

    Hope my insight helps you in some way.

    Good luck
         
        07-16-2009, 06:07 PM
      #9
    Green Broke
    Quote:
    Originally Posted by sandy2u1    
    IMO you should never give any kind of animal away for free. There are many reasons for this (and I don't want to get into all of that), but an animal that is free has no value and is often treated accordingly. Knock your price down some....I don't know what your asking, but horses in today's economy are not worth much. Advertise in as many places as you can. There are newspapers, vets offices, with your local farriers, at your local tack shop...etc. A lot of rescue places are full right now...it's a tough time for horses and humans alike! It is your responsibility to find that horse a good home before you move on. Don't get me wrong...I think that if you and your horse aren't working out, then I think you should part ways. I'm just saying that you must first take responsibility for the horse you have. I know it's tough to sell a horse in today's market...but keep trying, you will find a buyer. Good for you for not taking your horse to the auction! That tells me that you care about your horse and want what's best for him. Just don't give up.
    While I agree with your thought process, I disagree with the generalization. Two of the very best, and beloved, horses I ever had came to our family free of charge. We nearly had yet another free horse just a few years ago when our neighbors approached us about taking on one of their's as a gift to my daughter (we were not ready, at that point, to commit to having a horse).
    Done correctly, placing a horse free of charge can be a wonderful gift to the new owner and the horse. If you want to place him without financial gain, try networking through nearby lesson stables, 4-H clubs, etc to start getting leads on possible new owners. By using the input of the stable owners, club leaders, etc you would be able to "pre-screen" so to speak and have an idea before you ever speak to the actual person whether they might be right for your horse and he for them.
    You can also try the route of giving the appearance of a sale in order to weed through prospective new owners and then waive the fee if/when you find the right person.
         
        07-16-2009, 09:05 PM
      #10
    Weanling
    In today's economy almost NOTHING is selling. You might have to be prepared to keep him a while longer.

    I agree with lowering your price or trying to find a home for him as a pasture mate to some other horse.
         

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