Join Date: Apr 2008
Location: Gallant, Alabama
Wow... sounds like a rough deal.
When I first got my mare, one of my cousins was terrified of her because she was 'aggressive, mean, a killer, dangerous, and of course, a stallion'... I'll admit, my girl was kind of aggressive towards men at first, but she got out of it... but I just ignored my cousin and she eventually came around, though she's still sometimes nervous around my girl... especially when her kids are riding Gyps.
I have another cousin who is, I've recently learned, somewhat jealous of me because I have two horses and he can barely hold a claim to one... because I trained both my horses with hardly no outside help, and he's never trained one... because he messed up his sisters mare and I got her back safe enough and confidant enough to ride... because I'm younger than him and don't go to him for everything... because I refuse to let him shoe my horse or even listen to him because he doesn't know what he's talking about... I could go on and on. I've recently heard that he talks about me behind my back to his friends, who are also pretty good friends of mine, about horses and how I'm not 'rough enough' with my horses... how I let them get away with too many things, how I'm stupid because I pay a professional farrier to shoe my horses and refuse when he offers to shoe them for free (and when he's drunk)... how I keep my horses either too skinny or too fat... how I work them too hard... I could go on and on... I just smile and nod and ignore it... he's jealous, the end. I think I know my horses better than he does, not the other way around and he's just a drama queen.
Maybe your BO's just jealous? Sounds like jealousy to me, at any rate... in my experience, most people who nag all the time and talk bad about you/your horses/your training methods/grooming methods/etcetera... are jealous of what you have.
Anyway, Cutter's your horse, you're paying for board, your BO really can't say anything. If you're not allowed to clean his stall the way you want... well, it's none of her business how you do things as long as you're safe, everyone else is safe, and all the other horses are safe and happy, and most importantly, your own horse is safe and happy.
Horseshoe Loop Farm: Home of Gypsie (1994 TWH mare), Dakota (2006 TWH gelding), Jo (2012 TWH filly) & Minnie (1992 Paint mare)