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post #11 of 18 Old 11-04-2009, 08:57 PM Thread Starter
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i was not trashing my barn, i love the barn and the people are awesome, i was just venting about my frusterations and asking for advice on how i should handle my situation.
im not used to people telling me how to take care of my horse
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post #12 of 18 Old 11-04-2009, 08:58 PM Thread Starter
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and there was no contract
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im sorry i offended you, it was not my point, i was simply venting about my feelings. i do like everyone at the barn, im just not used to being told how to do everything.
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Learning to accept how other people do things is a fact of life. Something as we grow we realize is not all bad.

Why not ask the BO nicely to show you how she wants the stall cleaned and apologize for getting off on the wrong foot. I bet things will go better if the BO thinks you are willing to follow the rules and do what needs to be done.

One of those things in life that people want to forget. When you board your horse you have to understand that it is their barn so their rules.
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im sorry i offended you, it was not my point, i was simply venting about my feelings. i do like everyone at the barn, im just not used to being told how to do everything.
Then now is the time to try and mend fences with your BO.

Instead of complaining about her, ASK her how she'd like you to do things.

I love my trainer to death, but she and I will never see completely eye to eye on the care and feeding of horses. She has her ideas and I have mine. However, when I have a horse in with her for training, I go by the rules of her barn. When I take them home, I go by my own rules.

When you own your own place, you can do things the way you want. When it's someone else's barn, you do what they want. It's just that simple.

Be a proactive, happy boarder, not a problem. BOs will get rid of a problem boarder as soon as they can, and they'll warn others about the 'difficult' person they had to kick out.

The horse world is a small place; word gets around if you're a snarky, uncooperative boarder, and you'll eventually run out of places to take your horse if that happens.

Be the kind of boarder that a BO will be sad to see go, when you eventually move your horse. Trust me, it'll make for a happier atmosphere all around.

Also, get a signed contract ASAP! That not only protects the BO it also protects you, as well as spells out what the terms and conditions are for boarding.

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Also, get a signed contract ASAP! That not only protects the BO it also protects you, as well as spells out what the terms and conditions are for boarding.
Yes!!! Do this! Get a contract. Ask the BO if they have a boarding contract.
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If he was gelded late, and especially if he was used for breeding before, there's a good chance he could have been aggressive at the time. In fact, there's a horse at my barn right now that was a breeding stallion for eight years and only gelded last December. He's as sweet as can be around people, and no one thought he would have problems with the other horses.

He was put out with the herd, and he beat the living **** out of my Thoroughbred. My horse was terrified of him and didn't provoke him at all. The new horse just saw him as a threat and charged him every time they even made eye contact. I saw Victor get pinned against the fence several times. He actually drove my horse through an electric fence and when I went out there, I found Vic covered in raw lesions. Not fun. A horse like that is more than capable of killing another horse, so I understand the other boarder's concerns.

The ex-stallion finally calmed down when Norman kicked the hell out of him. The new horse had no herd manners, and it's a shame we didn't think to turn him out with Norman in the first place. I would suggest that you try turning your horse out with some grouchy old broodmares or a horse that will teach him some manners. It's definitely possible that your guy was bullying the other horses before, and it's probably due to a lack of manners. I understand that you probably don't want to think that your horse is capable of being like that, but you have to take into consideration the fact that he was a stallion up until a few years ago. He may go back to being a bully, or he might be just fine now that he's had time to chill out. You have to be prepared for anything.

I hope everything works out for you, and good luck with your new barn.

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post #18 of 18 Old 11-06-2009, 08:20 AM Thread Starter
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i do keep him seperate, i would hate if he hurt another horse. and i will get a contract probubly today, i guess it was just forgotten about
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