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    04-20-2012, 03:29 PM
Venting about boarding situation

I amlooking for support. I am so upset by the situation over the last few years, I just need to vent. What happened is done. I know eventually I will cope and deal. Here's what happened, in a nutshell.

I am boarding a horse at my mother-in-law's farm, over 50 acres of rolling hills, a river and a creek. There was a guy out there who was boarding for free. He was a friend of my sister-in-law, she doesn't live there. My ideas and his way of doing things did not mesh and the battles began shortly after I brought my horse out there last summer.

Making a very long, drawn out story as short as possible. I got tired of the work he was supposed to be doing for his free board, going undone. I got sick of watching him overgraze pastures that may never come back. Besides the fact he did not take very good care of his horse.

So what happened? My mother-in-law got fed up, FINALLY and told me to take over part of his pasture by reseeding it. Holy Hannah did all *bleep* break loose! So now he's gone. He took his tack, his hay and my sister-in-law with him. She is no longer speaking to us. If he didn't have a gf (who threatened me) I would wonder about the relationship with my SIL.

What does this mean for me and my husband? Well, we get the whole farm to ourselves, yippie! NOT! It's a mess. There are fences that are down, weeds to kill, acres and acres of pasture to fix, trees to cut up, barns that need paint, general maintenance he was supposed to do over the years, we were all supposed to help.

He didn't like me, I get that, but it is my 80-yr-old MIL who is suffering now. I am able to do some work, but I'm no spring chicken myself and with two small children! All because he couldn't have his way. I don't even know where to begin with all the maintenance and what to do with the pasture situation.

Thank you for reading. I would really appreciate negative comments to be left out please. I feel bad enough already.
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    04-20-2012, 03:37 PM
What is it you're looking for, exactly?

If the guy was supposed to be keeping up the farm in exchange for board and wasn't doing it, good riddance to bad rubbish.

If the farm is too much for you and your husband to handle, maybe your MIL needs to sell it off before it gets too decrepit to command a decent price.

Whatever this man is or isn't doing with your SIL isn't your concern.
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    04-20-2012, 03:39 PM
Ugh, sounds like a very interesting situation... Change isn't always easy (see fixing other people's mess) but generally is for the better (you don't have to deal with him any more).

Good Luck with the clean-up.
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    04-20-2012, 03:43 PM
As the first line said, I am looking for support. If you don't have any support to give, please don't comment.
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    04-20-2012, 03:50 PM
Green Broke
I'm so sorry, I'd be Ferlinghetti like you are now. Make a goal list with a time line, it might help keep things from getting to overwhelming all at once. Price it out too, maybe send out an email to friends asking fir support and help? These are just some ideas off the top of my head. I am sending you a big cyber hug and hope things start looking up for you!
    04-20-2012, 03:53 PM
Originally Posted by Klassic Superstar    
I am sending you a big cyber hug

Thank you I need it! We have already started the work. Fences are slowly getting put back up and one pasture has been reseeded. I think the barns will have to be hired out, it's too much heavy work for one couple. I think the biggest obsticle is the weeds!
    04-20-2012, 03:56 PM
I have a suggestion!! Silly where is came from but it might work for you.

"If you feed them, they will come" - Miss Kay from Duck Dynasty

Have a big cookout at the property and have all your friends and family come out and help with fences, weeds, etc and then have a big family dinner afterwards.
    04-20-2012, 03:58 PM
It can be done, but slow and steady will win the race. I think its a great idea to hire people to help with the worst of it.
Perhaps asking friends to help with the weeds, and then having a bbq at the end of the day could work! Everyone loves bbqs :P

Good luck!
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    04-20-2012, 04:14 PM
Green Broke
If you lived near me I'd cone help!
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    04-20-2012, 04:23 PM
Originally Posted by Klassic Superstar    
If you lived near me I'd cone help!
Thank you so much!! I really appreciate the offer! How about a road trip, there is plenty of pasture LOL

I'm brain storming about what we will do with all the grass I'm sure we'll get this year. All that's out there now is one horse and a mini donkey. We are in no way going to talk about boarding anybody else for awhile. Too bad that guy ruined such a good situation for people who wouldn't take advantage. I'm trying to talk my husband into getting another horse, maybe a pony for the kids? He doesn't want to even consider anything that permenant. Kids are too young anyway. I guess we have to wait until we see what the grass will do. Right now it's starting to take off. We reseeded it over a month ago when it was 80!

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