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post #1 of 46 Old 10-16-2012, 10:04 PM Thread Starter
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Unhappy Venting about a decision

So, I've been leasing this mare for four years

She had started being a little off and then it got to the point where she couldn't even walk.
We thought it was her stifle acting up, so I called the vet out. Vet came Monday and this is the news.

Blew an abscess in the front left, still has one in the right hind.
She also has very sore back muscles. She'll be on stall/indoor turn out to keep her feet dry.

She's been barefoot for her whole life. The vet says that gravel is causing the abscesses.
One the abscesses are gone and healed up, she HAS to have all four feet shod...
That's almost 140 dollars for shoes every 6 weeks, on top of 300 dollar board, and her 40 dollar supplement.

I'm 16, with a younger sister of 11. My mom is 62. She's planning to retire and move to Missouri once I turn 18
(some of you may have read my previous thread about this)
Land is way cheap out there and she couldn't afford to stay up here.

Anyway, I have the option to keep leasing this mare
I almost feel obligated to as I know her owner can't afford her shoes and supplement (which isn't really necessary. Just for her joints)
But also because I love her so much, and it would break my heart to have to not have her. I've bonded with her so much over the short period I've had with her.
But I would feel like such a selfish piece of crap if I kept on leasing her. My mom should be saving her money for when she retires, not spending it on something that's just keeping me happy.


I have another lease option, an OTTB at my barn. He's around 9 and he's a good boy, fun to ride. He's just not as trustworthy as Alibi (mare I'm leasing) is. I've taken her to shows, out on trails, ect, and she would be prancy, but she could control herself and she could trust me

He's a little too high strung to be relaxed. I love his energy, but I'd like him to be calm too. He's very picky and spooky.
If I were to lease him, it would only be 300 a month
I just don't feel for him the way I do with Alibi. The instant I sat on her I knew I wanted her.

I just don't want to give her up yet, you know? ):
Meh.
Thanks for reading my whining, hahah!

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post #2 of 46 Old 10-16-2012, 10:18 PM
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Are you able to do a half lease ??
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I'm there Monday-Saturday
So I'd only have one day to ride as a half lease if Saturday and Sunday.. It would be a waste of money /:

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you are 16 any chance of getting a part time job to help with the cost?

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I was going to suggest the same thing as above. There is baby sitting, pet walking or tutoring if your academically inclined. Is there a way the barn would be willing to hire you for a few hours on the weekends for cleaning and what not? You may not be able to pay for everything but you might be able to help with some of it.
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I was going to suggest the same thing as above. There is baby sitting, pet walking or tutoring if your academically inclined. Is there a way the barn would be willing to hire you for a few hours on the weekends for cleaning and what not? You may not be able to pay for everything but you might be able to help with some of it.
As for the job- small town. Applied to almost every place possible. Either they don't need help or I have to be 18 >.>

There's no little kids around, just old people. Seriously. Haha

No, the BO won't do that. Since she only has 20 horses she doesn't want help. She doesn't allow people to work off board. I really wish she did.

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Honestly? I suspect that when you started the lease, one of the unspoken benefits that you or your mum considered was that if/when this kind of thing happens you DON'T get stuck with the costs. There will be other horses that you will bond with and love. I think it's time to say goodbye to this one that isn't yours and let the owner deal with the problem.

Either try the TB out, or hold off from leasing anything for a while - use the money for lessons on schoolmasters. I know it's hard, but you said it yourself - your mum should be saving, not paying to keep someone else's horse in shoes.
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Can you talk to the owner and explain that you were not expecting this cost, and they should cover it?

There should have been agreed to terms before you went into the lease as to who would cover vet/farrier bills.

If not, and you can't afford it, then walk away.
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yes that is the benefit of leasing; it's not permanent.
You should talk to your mom and find out what she thinks is right, since it's her money.
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Her owner can't afford her shoes. So I'd feel terrible for just dropping that expense on her.
I've tried talking to my mom but she won't give me a straight up answer ):
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