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    10-17-2012, 09:11 AM
Green Broke
I can see where you are coming from, personally after such a long lease I would feel obligated to take care of the horse, but on the other hand it isn't your horse. Could you move her to a barn where there isn't gravel?
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    10-17-2012, 09:18 AM
Originally Posted by Lexiie    
Her owner can't afford her shoes. So I'd feel terrible for just dropping that expense on her.
I've tried talking to my mom but she won't give me a straight up answer ):
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That is one of the risks of Horse Ownership - it is HER problem, NOT yours! Take your emotions out of this and do the right thing - if your mum could happily afford this she WOULD be giving you Straight answer, I suspect she's hedging because she doesn't want to be the 'cause' of your upset. And she shouldn't be - the option to give the horse back is already there - I'm thinking you are emotionally blackmailing your mum on this one.

I will now step out of this thread, I am not going to lecture you anymore
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    10-17-2012, 09:31 AM
Green Broke
Not your horse, not your problem. If you were riding and the horse got injured then Id say it was. But this is a chronic illness casue or agravated just byh the horses phsical makeup and place he is kept. Neither of which are your fault. That's why you lease and don't buy sometimes, walk away. If I was the owner I would probably get a second opinion. Seems there should be other options available.
    10-17-2012, 11:36 AM
Originally Posted by Lexiie    
Her owner can't afford her shoes. So I'd feel terrible for just dropping that expense on her.
I've tried talking to my mom but she won't give me a straight up answer ):
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You're not "dropping" any expense on her. This is HER horse. These unexpected vet bills? They happen. Welcome to the world of horse ownership.
If you know you can't handle her.financially, move on. Horses come and go - trust me, you will fall in love with and bond with hundreds if you stay with horses. Don't put yourself in over your head.because you feel obligated.
    10-17-2012, 11:38 AM
I agree with the others. Its not your responsibility. You don't own the horse. The owner needs to sale the horse if they can't afford the horse cause horses always come with unexpected cost. Why not just buy your own horse if your going to be paying for board, farrier, supplements etc.

Im curious what expenses that you know the owner actually has? Im not familiar with full or half leases but I know what they are. I technically don't understand a full lease in the first place. If someones paying for everything then just own your own so you have complete say so.
    10-17-2012, 12:47 PM
If you realy want to keep riding Alibi and all Maybe you can do odds and ends work for the elderly in town? Do the shopping, Clean a house Mow or rake leaves. Put a add up at the local store and say you can do odds and ends work in the area.. I seems you really love the horse and I think that you can maybe work something out.. even maybe offering to care for others horses at the barn when they are away...
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    10-17-2012, 02:13 PM
The BO owns 12 of the 20 horses at this barn. I'd hate to see her not be able to take proper care of them.

My mom said that of the cost were to be split, it would be 3 dollars a day.
So I just need to do a few extra chores around the house.
Thebonly thing I don't like about that is that she's still loosing money. I'm not paying her. So I feel like a jerk.

I know that the muscle soreness is my fault. She's long in the back and has no topline. She isn't the best, physically, for me.
While she's healing I'll see if Ricky improves from being worked with more often.

Thanks for all the advice. Really, it gave me so much to think about and really sorted things out in my head. I think I really need to put my emotions out of this completely
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    10-17-2012, 02:35 PM
Good luck I hope it works out for you
    10-17-2012, 04:01 PM
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    10-17-2012, 04:13 PM
The fact that the owner can't afford the shoes is not really your problem.

As you are paying the board costs at $300 a month, it's in her interest to pay for the shoes and have you keep leasing. If you cancel the lease, she would have to pay all of the costs.

I am certain she'd prefer to just cover the costs of shoes every 6 weeks, rather than the entire cost of the horse.
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