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post #11 of 25 Old 02-23-2011, 12:41 AM
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I cant stand instructors like that! your paying THEM to be nice and TEACH you, not tell you how bad you are! Once an instructor made me cry in a clinic... the most i learned from him was to forget people like that and do my own thing.

^^hahaha tinyliny, the best i have is people like that just push my buttons.

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post #12 of 25 Old 02-23-2011, 12:41 AM
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i used to get the whip over my hands if i jabbed my horse in the mouth when i was little, i quickly learnt to have soft hands. but this lady was not all bad, and when she said you were doing something right it was a massive compliment coming from her. i rode under her instruction for years and im thinking of going back with my new boy.

i honestly dont like instructors that constantly say how well im doing. i have seen this done as a trick to make some people feel like they are improving with said instructor so they keep getting them back and instructor just sees easy $$.

edit: i dont pay my instructors to be nice, i pay them to make me better. :)

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post #13 of 25 Old 02-23-2011, 03:35 PM Thread Starter
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i used to get the whip over my hands if i jabbed my horse in the mouth when i was little, i quickly learnt to have soft hands. but this lady was not all bad, and when she said you were doing something right it was a massive compliment coming from her. i rode under her instruction for years and im thinking of going back with my new boy.

i honestly dont like instructors that constantly say how well im doing. i have seen this done as a trick to make some people feel like they are improving with said instructor so they keep getting them back and instructor just sees easy $$.

edit: i dont pay my instructors to be nice, i pay them to make me better. :)

I understand what you're saying. Unfortunately, I don't have much of a thick skin so that doesn't help. Also, I'm just learning to ride for fun. Maybe if I was learning to show in Dressage I may want someone to be strict and hard on me, but that's not what I'm after. I'm not saying she's a bad instructor, just that we're not a good match.
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post #14 of 25 Old 02-23-2011, 03:48 PM
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An instructor should be respectful, even if they're tough. I don't blame you a bit for being upset. As an adult, I want an instructor who will work with me to meet MY goals, not what they think I should be doing...

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post #15 of 25 Old 02-23-2011, 07:48 PM
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Silver spur if that works for you I'm not one to convince you otherwise. That's great that you found a trainer you believe in.

I would write them off as someone with anger management issues and walk the other way. Im not disrespectful to my trainer and I expect the same from her, and that works for us. We are a team.

Keep looking puddintat! There are plenty of good trainers out there and I'm sure you will find one that suits you.

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post #16 of 25 Old 02-23-2011, 07:53 PM
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An instructor should be respectful, even if they're tough. I don't blame you a bit for being upset. As an adult, I want an instructor who will work with me to meet MY goals, not what they think I should be doing...
^^Most definitley this!

I TELL my instructor what *I* want to accomplish, and my lessons should be geared towards that....not anything else.

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post #17 of 25 Old 02-23-2011, 08:02 PM
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How dare someone think it is okay to talk to someone else that way? Excuse me if I seem exuberant in my reply but I work with people all dang day long and disrespectful, rude and clueless people just butter my muffin!
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Yeah, if anyone said they'd hit me with the whip to "help" me sit up better, we'll they eat the whip.
Behavior like that just steams my clams!
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post #18 of 25 Old 02-23-2011, 08:44 PM Thread Starter
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Shasta1981- I actually have been using a trainer that I think is great. I used this person because she was recommended to me to train my horse, which she does do well, and to try out for a personal lesson. I should've just stuck with the first trainer. Lesson learned.
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post #19 of 25 Old 02-28-2011, 09:31 PM Thread Starter
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So apparently I'm the second one to say something to the BO about this trainer. The BO talked to the trainer and explained that if she wants a business this is not how to treat her clients. She also pointed out that the trainer never watched us ride before hand to get our riding level and never asked us what we wanted out of the lesson. The trainer sent me a message apoligizing and even offering a retry for free. I accepted her apology but not sure if I'm going to take a lesson with her again. I may just go with my previous trainer and pay the extra money. I just want to learn how to lope for pete's sake!! lol horsey people bring a lot of drama
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post #20 of 25 Old 02-28-2011, 09:36 PM
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I don't know. If she's offering a session for free, you might give her a try. She may have changed her tune after getting half her ass chewed off. Either way, you would get some free time on a horse .

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