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        06-12-2012, 09:47 PM
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    Wasted Potential and Selfish Efforts?

    I'm going to try and keep this as short as possible, but I have a tendency to ramble.

    Well, as some of you know, I leave for bootcamp for the Navy in October. This is something I've been looking forward practically my whole life (because even when I was younger I wanted to either be in the military or be a police officer), and I'm super excited to take the next step that will hopefully pave the way to a successful future and help form me into a more responsible, reliable, and independent person.

    There is, however, something else that is super important to me and the reason I am on this forum...my horse. Red is my baabbbyyyy. As silly as it sounds, he truly has become one of my best friends. When people ask me who/what I'm going to miss the most for bootcamp/A school, I always say my horse.

    All this in mind, I was told that I did not have to sell Red and that he could remain on my uncle's land for as long as I needed. Honestly, this horse is worth his weight in gold, so even if I do sell him, he's going to cost a pretty penny. The reason behind the title of this thread is because I am questioning my future with Red. I know that by my joining the military I am going to have to make quite a few sacrifices. However, one thing that I'm hesitant to give up is Red.

    So, I was thinking that possibly while I was going through all of the training and whatnot, and until I settled down at a base, Red could stay with my uncle. My uncle rides very often. He takes his horses all over to some pretty significantly difficult trail rides and rides them hard and keeps them in shape. He took Red once, and Red absolutely loved the trails, and minus a few spooks, he did awesome on the trails.

    Now, for the "wasted potential and selfish efforts". Red is a 2D barrel horse. Not only does he run a virtually consistant pattern every single time, he also is extremely level headed. I've had people laugh at me when I say he is a 2D horse because he plods around like an old man when he's not zooming around the barrels. As much as I want to keep him, I always feel a little guilty that I am wasting his talent. I'd hate to be the reason that he lost his super barrel racing abilities just because I'm not going to be able to show him.

    I just really don't know what to do. I know for a few months AT LEAST...Red won't be able to be under my care. I feel like if I do keep him that I am somehow wasting his potential and abilities, but at the same time, it's going to be so hard for me to let him go.

    So, if you read all of this (and managed to understand it lol), got any advice? Could I make this work? Or do I need to get rid of the pipe dream and sell him to someone who will put him to good use?
         
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        06-12-2012, 09:58 PM
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    Yearling
    I was in the Navy for eight years, loved it, and still work for the Navy 20 years later....

    My first duty station was Hawaii, not an option to have a horse there on a E-1 to E-4 pay, plus as a new sailor you aren't going to have time...

    My second duty station was the USS Jason, a destroyer tender - definitely no room for a horse there, we did two trips to the Gulf for Desert Storm, I spent two years on that ship and visited ports in Guam, Hawaii, Hong Kong, Singapore , Thailand, Japan, Saudi Arabia, Oman, and Jebel Alli among others.

    My next duty station was california, as a E6 I was finally able to board horses and enjoy them. This was about 6 years later... so my advice is to either accept your boy will be a pasture pet for many years or move him on and enjoy your time in the service and get another horse when your duty stations support it. Good luck and have fun - I loved my time in the Navy and still serve (I fly Navy communication satellites for a living).
         
        06-12-2012, 10:04 PM
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    I was in the Navy for eight years, loved it, and still work for the Navy 20 years later....

    My first duty station was Hawaii, not an option to have a horse there on a E-1 to E-4 pay, plus as a new sailor you aren't going to have time...

    My second duty station was the USS Jason, a destroyer tender - definitely no room for a horse there, we did two trips to the Gulf for Desert Storm, I spent two years on that ship and visited ports in Guam, Hawaii, Hong Kong, Singapore , Thailand, Japan, Saudi Arabia, Oman, and Jebel Alli among others.

    My next duty station was california, as a E6 I was finally able to board horses and enjoy them. This was about 6 years later... so my advice is to either accept your boy will be a pasture pet for many years or move him on and enjoy your time in the service and get another horse when your duty stations support it. Good luck and have fun - I loved my time in the Navy and still serve (I fly Navy communication satellites for a living).
    Thank you for your service! I'm soooo excited and chomping at the bit for bootcamp to get here. :)

    I really think he deserves a lot better than to be a pasture pet. He's just too good of a horse to sit back and not be put to good use.
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        06-12-2012, 10:06 PM
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    Yearling
    I would say that he would be content as a pasture puff. If that does not make you happy though, maybe consider leasing him to someone. I would die fir a 2D barrel horse as mine is showing his age, and I am sure others would be as well.
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        06-12-2012, 10:10 PM
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    Showing
    Leasing is always a fabulous option :)
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        06-12-2012, 10:12 PM
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    Yearling
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    I just really don't know what to do. I know for a few months AT LEAST...Red won't be able to be under my care. I feel like if I do keep him that I am somehow wasting his potential and abilities, but at the same time, it's going to be so hard for me to let him go.

    So, if you read all of this (and managed to understand it lol), got any advice? Could I make this work? Or do I need to get rid of the pipe dream and sell him to someone who will put him to good use?
    I don't think the horses look at things this way - he's your boy, he does what he does for you, with you. You're the one to know what he'll go for and what he won't. What someone else would do with him is pretty much irrelevant - he's *yours*.

    My horse, for example, is a former GP show jumper. He loves to jump, yes. But he also loves hanging out in the paddock, and bullying other horses, and getting groomed and pampered, and being my ride, even though we do zero jumping. He's learning to be a dressage horse, because that's better for him at this point than dishing out any more pounding on his front legs. And he's pretty proud of his new moves. He knows when he's done a really good leg yield, and he struts. So - what does he really like? Company, being admired, getting plenty of exercise. We have to knock off for the winter because we don't have an indoor arena and the ground here gets icy. He does NOT like that - he gets a little pissy, starts to lose his manners. He needs to work (and be admired!).

    So it's not going to slay your boy if you lay him off while you're in boot camp. He might miss you, but it's not going to ruin him as a ride. And if he's happy being your ride, whatever you're doing, and you're happy having him as your horse, then that's that. What someone else might do with him doesn't actually matter.
         
        06-12-2012, 10:14 PM
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    Trained
    I vote for looking at a lease option as well, gives you time to settle into your new career and then decide what is best for Red long term.
         
        06-12-2012, 10:24 PM
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    Yearling
    The lease option may be difficult if you are on a ship or in a duty station that has limited communication - say he is hurt, needs care, the leasee needs something or does something you don't agree with ... it will be very hard for you to ensure his care when you are on a ship and headed overseas... plus, enlisted pay is low and that may come into play as well. Not that it cannot be done, but be aware of the limitations you will have.

    If your family can oversee the lease for you (perhaps your uncle?) that might help you out quite a bit if you go that option...
         
        06-12-2012, 10:37 PM
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    Trained
    I was Air Force, not Navy, but I can't imagine keeping a horse while in the military. I spent 9 out of 25 years based overseas, and was deployed about 5-6 months a year for much of the remaining time. When home, I normally worked 12 hour days.

    I did a tour with the Navy at Whidbey Island. We deployed a lot, but were probably gone less total time than the folks in the carrier based squadrons.

    Not all military jobs are like that. You might try a lease for a year, until you know a bit more about what your future will be like. But if you sell then, and your horse hasn't been doing well with the barrels, you may lose money. I can't speak to the barrel racing side of things...just know that many military jobs leave little time for family, let alone horses. And many bases really have no option open for keeping a horse.
         
        06-12-2012, 10:40 PM
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    Weanling
    If you do let him go you will have many regrets about it! I have had so many bad thoughts about a horse that I had to let go, it still haunts me. Maybe see if you have a friend or family member near where he is being kept that has an interest in horses. Even of he isn't being put on barrels, somebody you know taking him on trails would be good for him. Leasing does get a bit hard when your away. Good luck!
         

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