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        01-26-2013, 01:17 PM
      #1
    Yearling
    What about the in-between?

    Its rather easy for me to swing emotionally right now so I'm going to rant and get it off my chest. No one in my life understands this. I'm finally on my own and supporting myself now. Living in a room in a house with a few other roommates. I had to quit my job to move to where I am at, so I'm looking for a new job. This plus school is stressing me out. I'm missing my family. Its raining outside, I'm listening to my soft rock pandora station and have a candle burning. Setting myself up for disaster...probably but it helps me think and relax most of the time.

    I ended up coming to one thought, I miss Jake.

    I miss him nickering at me from the gate of his pen, ears forward bobbing his head slightly. I miss the fact that he was able to tell that I was on the barn grounds from the moment I was in his line of vision and he would perk up even when I was a good 300 yards away walking through the other pens. I miss the fact that he was a spitfire ride, even at 24 years old. I miss the fact that he forced me to be a better rider and that he never put up with my mistakes that I made because I wanted to rush, or I was loosing my temper. At the same time he was always forgiving me for my mistakes that I couldn't help. In a sense he was perfect in making me a better person...and a better rider. I miss having confidence that I had the most bomb-proof horse I have seen in my entire life. This horse was a definition of fearless, he never told me no, even if the task was physically impossible for him he would still try...for me. He isn't gone, in theory I can visit him when ever I would want, but around 600 miles separate me from him.

    I haven't been on the back of a horse since the last time I rode Jake a month ago. Heck I haven't touched a horse since I gave Jake one last hug before I drove away leaving him in the pasture at my father's house. The last time I actually saddled up and really actively rode a horse was probably about 4-6 months ago.

    One of my main problems no is that I have no idea what to do with myself. Horses have been my everything. Its been who I am, I have always been one of those that lives and breaths horses. Its part of my identity. Now I don't have that. I knew this point was coming and I have been separating myself from the hobby for a while...trying to find other things to fill my time. Trying to make other things become a part of me. One reason I picked up drawing again was to help fill this gap. I've also tried writing but that doesn't seem to fill the gap for me. It makes me sad that writing is not what it used to be for me. Neither is drawing really...I feel like my creative input has died.

    I snowboard in the winter, hike whenever the weather permits, swim in the summer, camp/travel in the summer and hang out with friends. I am very rarely bored or have free time. All of these things are not doing what I want them to do. I feel so incomplete.

    I don't have money to be involved with horses right now, not for owning, a lease or lessons. I also don't have the money to join the show team on campus. I just want to learn more and feel the connection again...the satisfaction of learning something new and training to get it right between the horse and rider.

    Some ideas that have come into my head is that I could become part of the barn riders on campus. They take care of the arabians that my school owns and breeds. But I'm sure that put me around horses but it doesn't give me the opportunity to really work with them as I'm sure it would be the older broodmares. The other one is that I look for a working student position for the summer. Which I like the idea but the bad stories scare me a bit.

    I just honestly don't know what to do with myself, I feel heartbroken over a hobby...my passion...my horse. I don't know how to cure it. I'm looking at years before I can cure it before I can afford to get back into horses.
         
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        01-26-2013, 01:23 PM
      #2
    Green Broke
    This makes me sad for you. I am sorry you had to leave Jake and are finding it hard to cope. Hang in there. Is this temporary??
         
        01-26-2013, 01:39 PM
      #3
    Banned
    Actually I think you are in a much better position than many owners who go off to college, as there are horses at your college.

    Go help with the arabians.
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        01-26-2013, 01:45 PM
      #4
    Yearling
    Is leaving Jake temporary or the in general horse situation? If its for Jake, yes. He is 24(ish) and has ringbone in his front right. He can not be in any sort of regular riding work, so I made the decision to retire him. He will live in my father's pasture until he passes. No more moves for him. He has earned his retired life whether I want him or not. As for the horse situation yes, I imagine once I'm out of college I will be able to own again, and I may be able to eventually take lessons if I get a good job. It just takes time. I'm just in the in-between phase.

    I am lucky for that reason, I guess that is my best option right now. I have such anxiety about asking for thing specifically. Since we are going into our forth week they already had their meetings and assigned horses. I may have to wait for next quarter. I guess it wouldn't hurt to ask by sending an email or something.
         
        01-26-2013, 02:00 PM
      #5
    Green Broke
    I totally understand your feeelings of emptiness. Jake is an extraodinary horse & gave you his all. I would definetely go to the barn & offer to help w/the horses. I'm betting they would love a helper w/your experience. Hope you are studying for a field that will reward w/enough pay to fulfill your dreams.
         
        01-26-2013, 02:10 PM
      #6
    Super Moderator
    All I can say is that I am glad you picked up the pencil to draw again. Sometimes being seperated from one thing brings us to another, and it may be something that we "needed" just as much as the first one.

    I can imagine how hard it is, but as trite as this sounds, "this ,too, shall pass".
    So very true.
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        01-26-2013, 02:28 PM
      #7
    Yearling
    I'm just hesitant to know if I will have the time, it looks like they require you care for the horse you are assigned to 5 days a week. Which I do not requires about an hour a day at least, (good grooming job, exercise...ect) Personally since my main priority is school, then finding a job...then horses after that. I have to get a job then figure out my work schedule before I agree to something. Ugh. I volunteered a bit my freshman year maybe the trainer will remember me and I can go and talk to him and see what he expects.

    I'm going for my DVM, so that should pay well enough. ;)

    Tinyliny, I wish it was helping. I'm just hoping that it will take time. I do enjoy drawing but it has yet to become any sort of go-to for me. Thank you though. :)
         

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