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        05-03-2013, 07:41 PM
    What am I supposted to do?

    I called my barn owner last night to tell her that I couldn't come riding this weekend. Her answer? "Okay, thanks, bye." No "Oh, why not?" or, "Do you want to come on Monday instead?". Nothing. Frankly, I'm really sick of this place I'm riding at. I've been doing nothing but walking and trotting over poles for half a year. Even my sister's friend, who owns a ranch, says that by now, I should be jumping at least cross-rails at a canter. I don't even know how to tack up or halter my horse. I'm no where near confident around them. I'm not even going to stay for the summer, hoping things get better. I don't think I'll be riding next weekend. I want to move on, and find a new stable to ride at. I've e-mailed one of them a month ago, but I got nothing back. Every other stable is either unlisted or too far away for me to drive back and forth. What am I supposted to do? I love horses, and I can't stop thinking about when I'll get one. I want to ride every day, not once every week (If I have a ride there, even). Do I keep looking for stables to ride at? Stick it out at my current stable? (I really don't think I'll do this) look for stablehand jobs over the summer? I'm upset, and I want to find a way to stay with my horses! Please help- what would you do in my situation? I'm a young teenager with hardley (even though I've been riding for half a year) any horse experience, who rides english and wants to do eventing or cross-country.
    Thanks in advance.
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        05-03-2013, 07:44 PM
    Uhh... why exactly are you upset?

    That your barn owner has better things to do than wonder why you can't ride this weekend?

    Sounds like, unless one of the prospective barns you've attempted to contact calls you back you either have to bite the bullet and accept what (little?) riding time you do get (some people don't get that privilege ever); or, not ride at all until a new potential chance at riding turns up.
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        05-03-2013, 07:46 PM
    Originally Posted by Ashleysmardigrasgirl    
    uhh... why exactly are you upset?

    That your barn owner has better things to do than wonder why one you can't ride this weekend?
    No... Its because she's like this constantly. She never returns our calls, and it seems like she doesn't even care about any of her students.
        05-03-2013, 07:48 PM
    I don't think I am understanding your post, you own a horse but you can't ride it without the help of the barn owner? Or you are just taking lessons but they have not progressed fast enough for you?
        05-03-2013, 07:49 PM
    Originally Posted by waresbear    
    I don't think I am understanding your post, you own a horse but you can't ride it without the help of the barn owner? Or you are just taking lessons but they have not progressed fast enough for you?
    Lessons are not going fast at all... It feels like I'm not learning anything.
        05-03-2013, 07:54 PM
    Have you spoken directly with your instructor about your concerns?
        05-03-2013, 07:55 PM
    So you don't own a horse, you are taking lessons then? Find another place that is more suited to you. I have gone through many riding instructors, some I stayed with for years, others only a lesson or two. However your choices maybe limited if you are using school horses, not every instructor provides you with a horse to learn, at least not around here, those places are in big demand here and booked up solid.
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        05-03-2013, 08:04 PM
    You have been taking lessons for a year and a half and you can't tack a horse up but you want to canter over jumps I don't get it? If you feel like you are ready to move up and are not getting it at the barn you are at then move! It sounds like you doing chores (cleaning stalls, feeding ect) in exchange for ridding lessons would be a great place to start!
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        05-03-2013, 08:07 PM
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    If you emailed the other places, that could be why they're not getting back to you. It's not good business practice, but I've found with a few horses businesses they're not very responsive about email. Call them, or if they're a proper business, drop in.

    I would not be expecting someone to jump after six months of riding one hour a week. That is about 25 hours in the saddle. Jumping is the end result of lots of flatwork, learning how to shorten and extend strides, a really stable, developed two point at all paces etc. I guess at your stage I would imagine the things to work on would be position, quiet hands, holding a steady contact, seat aids, lots of figures. If you're not learning what you want to learn then move... but have realistic expectations. Discuss with your instructor what you want to achieve. Riding one hour a week you can't expect to improve too quickly, and you have to be doing everything else well before you progress the jumping.

    As far as not asking why you're not coming... so? It's none of her business why you are not coming. Likely she is just busy, she doesn't have to run around trying to accommodate you if you have a standing appointment. Horse care... in my experience its been included in group lessons but not private, different places do different things. If you want to learn ask to hang around and shadow one of the employees.
        05-03-2013, 08:31 PM
    This isn't the first time you've posted about your lessons and not yet cantering, but it sounds like you haven't listened to any of the advise that you've gotten. You really need to sit and talk to your trainer and ask him/her all the questions you've asked us. Only they can answer why you're still walking and trotting and not yet cantering. They must see something that tells them you're not ready. Or if it really is that bad, then by all means, leave and find a more suitable place.

    I've heard of lots of barns that don't even think about cantering for the first 6 months. And if you're still that afraid/timid around horses, hands on ground experience would be very beneficial, but again you have to talk to your trainer so they can help you.

    Also, in person visits to other stables would be better as you can get a feel for the place and talk to people in person, etc. Barns are usually way too busy to return emails and phone calls.
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