This is just me spouting to other horse people, so don't run me over
J's started 4-H this year and is in the horse & pony project with old man Odie. Her best friend was in the horseless horse project last year and had a TERRIBLE experience.
So ever the horseperson who can't stand people have bad experiences with horses, thought it would be ok if we took her on as our horseless horse groom. Yeah, it's J's first year, but I've been "around the block" a few times. And since I'll be there 100% of the time, it's not actually J teaching her anything. They'll be learning together. A positive. They both understand that IF I think they are ready, they MIGHT be able to show. I've been very clear that showing during the year and at the fair is a MAYBE and not a guarantee. Which they are perfectly fine with.
Then last night we hit a snag I learned they just started taking riding lessons this last month (good, right?) Nope, they are with a person that I have found out from others as well as recent observations to be CLUELESS! And they absolutely LOVE her. I understand that my way is not the only way, and learning from many people is a good thing. But they are very new to this, and I'm afraid having them do things differently from their new trainer will confuse and frusterate the little girl.
When I talked to her (the HHG's) mom, I expressed my concern about my doing things differently than their trainer and not wanting to confuse or frusterate her daughter. But that there are certain things that will need to be done "my" way. Example: trainer wants kids to ALWAYS have a chain OVER the nose when leading and to be holding the chain, not the rope, the chain. NO!! Trainer doesn't require her to brush the horse since the hair gets in her eyes and bothers her. NO!! When she feels like quitting because she's tired or frustrated, the trainer lets her hop off and leave. NO!! I could go on.
I used to give lessons quite often, and may POSSIBLY starting to again, so we agreed that the HHG can start taking lessons from me as well, but that she still wants her daughter to take lessons from the "trainer".
...And that's when the "trainer" jumped in. She thinks it'd be a good idea that if I'm willing to trailer, I could bring him over for the HHG to ride and get more confidence on. And then both girls could take lessons from her. OH H*** NO!!
WHAT DID I DO??? See, this is why I'm so mean, everytime I try to be nice it turns around and bites me square in the A**