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post #1 of 21 Old 12-14-2010, 02:41 PM Thread Starter
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What to do when you and your horse don't get along?

What do youdo when you and your horse have a personality clash? That the more you get to know each other the more you both can't stand each other? I can literally feel the attitude pouring out of Cinder and she's got me so uncomfortable I barely like going into the pasture.

I've never got this kind of vibe from a horse. Cindy and India are fine. This isn't something new with me and her but I thought it was something that with work and training both of us could get through. But it's not getting better, in fact it feels like it's getting worse.

What should I do?

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post #2 of 21 Old 12-14-2010, 03:27 PM
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If there is no trust or respect - I would say to end the relationship. We have a handful of horses at our facility that I do not like. But I know they have to trust and respect me in case there is ever an illness or injury. I do not coo over them. I simply let them be unless it is necessary to handle them.
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post #3 of 21 Old 12-14-2010, 03:38 PM
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Relationships with our horses are like every other relationship in life. We do not all get along. Period. No fault of either side. Just not everyone gets along with everyone else.

I would bet there is a person out there that would Cinder to be the perfect horse for them.
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post #4 of 21 Old 12-14-2010, 03:48 PM Thread Starter
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That's just it, she is my kind of horse. She's big, draft cross, is a gorgeous mover and has a ton of potential. She's mostly a sweetheart and I feel insanely ungrateful. I feel like I screwed up somewhere along the line. I've never let her get away with any disrespectful behavior (which might be a basis for it since she was heavily spoiled the last two years and treated as just a pet not a horse). I knew she'd never been alone so I searched high and low for a pal for her. She gets handled daily and worked with. But... yeah. I failed somehow.

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post #5 of 21 Old 12-14-2010, 03:54 PM
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Just because she's "your kind of horse" doesn't mean it will work. I have been wanting a good barrel horse for a while... and I found one that was bred great, built well, and beautiful. But we couldn't get along, so I sold him. He is happily running with another girl now... and I'm happier for him. I will find my "one" :)
Even when you love a horse, and they are everything you want, if you can't get along it's just not worth it.
Good luck on your decision!
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post #6 of 21 Old 12-14-2010, 03:57 PM
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That's just it, she is my kind of horse. She's big, draft cross, is a gorgeous mover and has a ton of potential.
So wait. Using that logic, all well built hot men should get along with me, right? Since they are my type of guys.

Your personalities do not match. No reason to torture either of you into trying to shove a square peg into a round hole.
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post #7 of 21 Old 12-14-2010, 03:59 PM Thread Starter
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omg I just snorted my coffee! LMAO!!

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post #8 of 21 Old 12-14-2010, 04:03 PM Thread Starter
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I understand what you're getting at though. I guess I'm just disappointed. I was kind of raised with the "all things can be cured with groundwork, training, more groundwork" idea. When something goes wrong it's 99% the horseman's error and not the horse. I figured I was just doing something wrong.

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post #9 of 21 Old 12-14-2010, 04:05 PM
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I do not disagree with that in theory.

But truthfully, think about personalities. Not everyone gets along with everyone else and there is not always a reason you can put your finger on.

You two are just not clicking.
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post #10 of 21 Old 12-14-2010, 04:48 PM Thread Starter
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You're right of course. It is good to hear it from someone else.

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