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    10-14-2012, 06:07 AM
What to do when your backed in to a corner?

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Things with Zoey are going nowhere. I've had her for a year now and she is well as I said, going nowhere. I see so many people around me going so far with there horses in such little time. For example I have a friend who is the same age as me and she got a completely wild brumby and she is easier to do things with then Zoey. I'm not having fun riding Zoey matter of fact, I'm secretly scared. I am receiving from with depression and I have mental break downs and having a bad day with Zoey starts it. I get that in riding people and horses have their bad days. When Zoey has one she might as well straight of the track, she doesn't turn, stop, relax, flex anything. And if I don't give her her own way she does this little half rear thing. Normally that wouldn't scare me but she has flipped, that's right FLIPPED backwards onto me so I get extremely frighten when she now gets cranky I get scared which doesn't help. Thank you for reading.
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    10-14-2012, 07:50 AM
Maybe it's time to get a trainer ? Or rethink her relationship with you if she is making you depressed seeing as they are supposed to have the opposit effect.
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    10-14-2012, 07:52 AM
I had a trainer( highly recommend) I didn't like the way she was with horses. I'm thinking that maybe I should sell but she is my heart horse and it would also break my mums heart.
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    10-14-2012, 07:58 AM
Are there any other trainers around you? Having the right trainer is incredibly helpful (speaking from experience)
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    10-14-2012, 08:02 AM
In order to be my "heart horse," the horse has to have made a concerted effort over the course of our relationship to not kill me or itself. Flipping over backwards would definitely preclude that and I would not keep such an animal.
    10-14-2012, 08:04 AM
The only good ones are on site ones(so I would have to go to them) which is tricky as the person who's float and car I use (and she drives) is renovating so she is extremely busy. Me and Zoey have been through a lot of good as well though.
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    10-14-2012, 11:04 AM
Sorry if you already said this, but did Zoey come from the track? How long have you had her and how old is she?

Owning and riding horses should be a joy most of the time. I believe a heart horse becomes a heart horse because of the joy you experience together as working partners. If riding Zoey is making you frustrated and depressed, I do not see how she can be your heart horse. That is just my opinion, but maybe something to ponder.

If you truly feel you and Zoey have something special between you, find a trainer to help you. Judge the trainer by the success they have in helping you manage your horse and your fear, not on the methods they use. From what you said, it doesn't sound like things are working using the methods you are comfortable with, so it is time to change. Be open minded and willing to try any methods the trainer recommends (so long that they do not cause physical or mental harm).

If you are not willing or able to work with a trainer, maybe it is time to look for a different mount, and a trainer that will help you rebuild your confidence.
    10-14-2012, 11:07 AM
Originally Posted by Ellieandrose    
I had a trainer( highly recommend) I didn't like the way she was with horses. I'm thinking that maybe I should sell but she is my heart horse and it would also break my mums heart.
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Selling a horse would not break your mothers heart nearly so much as keeping a horse that causes you to slip back into a depression, seriously injures you or worse...

I love my daughters horse too, but if the mare was ever a threat to my daughters well being, the horse would be gone.

What was wrong with the trainer?
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    10-14-2012, 11:57 AM
This is how I was starting to feel and trust me, I have my heart horse too. I've had him since he was born and have done everything myself. I've been doubting how I trained him because he recently has started to get so much worse and also was backing into corners and beginning to pop a rear. He has never done that before.

I have a trainer that I love and we have been through it all together. Her advice when he started acting like that was put your hands forward (hard, I know) and push forward. It did work with him...for a while.

I bought a back on track pad last weekend. Back pain was my last idea before deciding it was just behavioral and he needed a good training boot camp. Well, I have a completely different horse now. He's supple, responsive, wanting to work, and has had no problems behavior wise so far.

My advice:

1. Get a trainer that you BOTH like.
2. Find out if she is trying to tell you something, especially if it has recently gotten worse. The only way to communicate with us according to them is by doing something obvious and big.
3. Consult with vet/farrier/chiro/trainer to rule out medical issues and get down to why she may be doing it.

Good luck!
    10-14-2012, 02:44 PM
I wonder if she is the right type of horse for your type of human. If you suffer from depression and anxiety, such a needy horse would not be a good match, imo. I would talk to you mum and see if you can't consider looking for a quieter horse. Riding is supposed to be fun!

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