Lets try this again in a bit of a nutshell-
So as maybe some know I have been looking at purchasing a 12 year old ranch/cutting/sorting QH gelding for myself. He has basically been a work horse all his life and knows it. He is in work mode and knows once a saddles on his back or once he's pulled out of his stall he's there to work and work.
I was looking for a horse with a nice personality that id get along with. Now, im not saying he's not a nice horse but he kinda hides his personality a bit. I think it goes hand and hand with the whole work mode attitude. After I rode him the other day (in a non work mode way, just casually jogging and slow cantering) he was cuddly and kinda let his personality out a bit. I just think he hasn't had alot of time just spent cuddling on him and spending a bunch of bonding rider-horse time. To me its almost like he just was used when the person needed or wanted to ride. Which, isn't bad just not what im use to cause all of my guys are spoiled as heck!
Also, me and my trainer believe he's been struck in the face by a man at one point. He doesn't hate men but I think that's the majority of people who have really ran the heck outta him and made him WORK. As soon as a man gets on him he literally WORKS...HARD. Like even when the rider doesnt ask he's just doing it. But, when a woman gets on he's more relaxed and although he does work hard its nothing like he does when a man is on his back.
And the reason I say he's been struck is because whenever you try to grab his ears or the crest of his neck he kinda pulls his head up and away like "AH, not my ears!!" he's not in anyway disobedient about it its just almost out of habit. He has no problems with bridling and unbridling just touching his ears/neck. I just ended up holding his halter and keeping his head down to me cause im short. But regardless if I held the halter or not he let me touch him, just moved his head away a bit.
So I guess ultimately my questions are:
1] Do you think once I prove to him that im not going to work the piss outta him then throw him away wet and just spend alot of time with him -non riding wise- that hell let that personality out? I know its in there but is it too hard to salvage??
2] What do you make on the whole head shyness (ish)?? Do you think hell permanently do it or if I worked with him hell get better? I just feel so bad thinking someone could have hit him in his face cause he's such a good boy.
Sorry for the short little story. I really had a nice one typed and it got lost so I just typed something quick and to the point.