Originally Posted by Saddlebag
A beginner was enlightened of the rules before the first ride. One of them was that if I heard the word "can't", the lesson would become a lesson on picking up manure while I watched.
LOVE this, my old trainer used to do that. Boy, was she serious too. Even if we slipped we mucked stalls and did chores. She always made up the lesson time (even though she didn't have to, was in our contract we agreed to for said training and lessons), but I don't remember the last time I said I can't. (besides now) Amazing how something as little as that has made me a better rider.
To add to something that grinds my gears, when people talk about or rag on their "harsh" or "horrible" trainers. Most trainers have reasons for what they do, trashing a trainer when it's NOT necessary can really harm them in the long run. Especially on the internet. Always good to watch what you say, even if your trainer does warrant said "trash talking."
Most trainers, at least the ones that I have had are amazing. Yes, I've been yelled at, fallen off and told to get back on. In the end SO worth it, I've become a better rider, and am still becoming better today.