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post #1 of 6 Old 02-15-2009, 06:51 PM Thread Starter
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What should I do?

I have been having trouble with my Mare basicly from the start. I have had her for around 3 months now.

When I bought her she had girth sores and saddle sores so I didnt ride her straight away and let her have a break so they could heal up, like the vet said I should do. I rode her a couple of times bareback and she would just back up and put her head down trying to back ect. She also did that from day dot, but we were told it was because of her girth and saddle sore, and her teeth needed to be done pretty bad as well.

Girth and Saddle sores healed up, teeth been floated and she was still doing the misbehaving. I loss alot of confidence and quit riding her all together, silly thing to do I know. My granddad came out with me one day and I rode her and she was fine without the bridle on, walked, trot, stopped, turned. Went to get on her couple of days later all of that went down the drain and she became nasty again.

I plained on riding her bareback 2 weeks ago, and while I was lounging her she was bucking and rearing at me well I let her get away with it because I was scared that if I did anything she would hurt me, so my Non-Horsie Mum decided she wanted a go and I forgot to shut the round yard gate and off goes Abby. Lucky it is in a fenced arena so she just galloped around the arena while I was trying to catch her. I didnt ride that day.

We talked to the agistment owner about what she was doing and he said "It is because we lefted her" as I stated earlier the reason was because she had girth sores. Now he also said "Kids wreck kids ponies" but she wasnt a kids pony to start with, we were told a load of bull. He talked to her old owners and he is happy to ride her for us to get her back in line.

I guess I should get down to my question huh? Well I want to know if I should offer her back to him and buy me a old horse for me to learn on? She is 5 years old, Im guessing she had 1 months of training, I have been riding for around 4 years now but very have very no confidence. I really want to work with a instructor but we dont own a float so its hard to transport her to properties.

Sorry for the novel.....

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post #2 of 6 Old 02-15-2009, 08:26 PM
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There are many riders out there who are green, who take on green horses - and I personally feel that is a bad mix.

I am not saying you are green, but you are still essentially new to the world of riding, and are still learning and growing yourself as one.

If I were to choose a horse for someone with little confidence and still growing and learning as a rider...I would choose a horse who is more of a "been there, done that" mount.

A horse that can teach, be safe, and allow it's rider to grow confidence while having fun and enjoying themselves.

Now again, not every rider is the same. And not every horse and rider combination is the same.

I grew up riding "Been there, done that" mounts and I am very thankful for that, because they taught me allot - and gave me the essential tools needed to for when I moved onto younger, greener horses.

Riding is supposed to be enjoyable, fun and about the bond between horse and rider.

The ultimate choice is yours.

Maybe you can have your Parents drive you to a barn nearby for a riding lesson once a week on a mount that is older, more experienced so that you can take those tools home, and apply them to your mare?

I would hate to suggest that someone just give up a horse - again, the choice is yours - but you also have to put your wants, feelings and needs into factor as well.
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post #3 of 6 Old 02-15-2009, 08:47 PM Thread Starter
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Well I have taken to riding lessons once a week and then I was on and off for a while. Mum seems to think they wont let me back in so I have dropped the idea.

I think I might call her old owners and see if they can come have a look at her before I decide, but it is also nice to get other peoples 2 cents.


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post #4 of 6 Old 02-16-2009, 06:33 AM
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Its best to buy a horse without problems straight up, so maybe if you do get another horse you should consider a vet check if you don't feel that you can pick out all the problems on your own.

Five is a bit young, you can get super quiet 5 year olds but on average they will still be "experimenting" with their riders. As far as getting someone else to ride your horse, I personally don't like doing it. It may help now but without constant training, a young untrained horse will often quickly develop bad and potentially dangerous habits.

Usually, successful green riders with green horses are the ones who have regular lessons with a skilled trainer/instructor who teaches both the horse and the rider, or has a knowledgeable and reliable close friend/family member, who can help them regularly. If you are not in a position to do this, and you are not experienced enough to train on your own, maybe you should really consider if a younger horse is right for you.

In Australia these days you can pick up some pretty reasonably priced horses that seem alright. I would recommend something between 9 - 15 years of age, and not an OTTB. Look for a horse that has been through pony club and maybe the rider is moving on to a horse that specialises in a certain area.

If you really like your horse consider sending her away to a trainer while you take some lessons. What does your mother mean that they won't accept you? I don't really understand what you mean by that, did you do something wrong? Lessons are essential. When you get her back then I would find a good trainer and instructor, don't just get a trainer because they may not be able to teach you well, or in a way you understand. Work with them weekly, or whenever you can and that way you can keep your mare from learning bad habits.

Its up to you what you do, good luck.
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post #5 of 6 Old 02-16-2009, 06:56 AM
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Personally speaking, I would give the horse back if possible and acquire a much older, broke horse. If that isn't possible then you certainly need professional help for both you and your horse. What I wouldn't do is to have the former owner train or ride her for you. Apparently they were the ones who mistreated her to begin with so I would not rely on them to correct a problem that they created.

I'm not arguing with you, I'm just explaining why I'm right.

Nothing sucks more than that moment during an argument when you realize you're wrong.

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post #6 of 6 Old 02-16-2009, 05:16 PM Thread Starter
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Originally Posted by Andi View Post
What does your mother mean that they won't accept you? I don't really understand what you mean by that, did you do something wrong?
I wasnt going regualarly, I would go once every month or so when I was meant to go every week, I'm guessing Mum thinks maybe that wont let me in because I didnt go regualarly for a long time. I actually have no idea what she means.


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