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    03-02-2009, 12:38 PM
  #11
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The westrn saddle my mare uses is a 17 inch... (I prefer the bigger saddles, honestly, I'm a pefect fit for a 15 and a half inch, but I like the bigger saddles). The english saddle is a 17 inch as well, though I think converting it to western size it would be a 16 inch (I'm very not sure on this point).

Shanna is short and... well, she's not fat, but she's very stocky.

I've spoken with her and told her that she needed to use the western saddle and why. She agreed with me yesterday, but I have a feeling she'll be emailing me all this week trying to convince me to let her use the english saddle... I told her that for a hundred dollars, I'd sell it, lol, cause I don't hardly ever use it... I just don't feel that safe in it...
     
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    03-02-2009, 01:00 PM
  #12
Weanling
IMO- Britt, you said in one of the first few posts that this girl has "no horse sense." If she doesn't have any horse sense, she has no business riding any horse, and certainly not on a trail. That's an accident waiting to happen. IF you choose to allow her to ride anyway, DEMAND that she wear a helmet, and ride the way YOU say, with the saddle and bit YOU see fit. This is YOUR horse, NOT hers, and your rules are the only ones that count. Good luck!
     
    03-02-2009, 01:11 PM
  #13
Green Broke
I guess I don't see the issue here. If your friend wants to ride your horse, then so be it, but it should be under YOUR terms, not hers (after all it is your horse). If safety is an issue, then I would suggest laying it out on the line.
     
    03-02-2009, 01:12 PM
  #14
mls
Trained
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Originally Posted by Britt    
The westrn saddle my mare uses is a 17 inch... (I prefer the bigger saddles, honestly, I'm a pefect fit for a 15 and a half inch, but I like the bigger saddles). The english saddle is a 17 inch as well, though I think converting it to western size it would be a 16 inch (I'm very not sure on this point).

Shanna is short and... well, she's not fat, but she's very stocky.
A 17 inch western saddle is very large. Are there enough holes in the fender to allow the stirrups to shorten to correct length for a short legged rider? My 6 foot husband rides a 16 inch saddle.

Seat size does not only equate to the size of your jeans. The length of your leg from your hip bone to your knee is how you figure saddle seat size.

A 17 inch english saddle is a 15 inch western.
     
    03-02-2009, 02:28 PM
  #15
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A 17 inch western saddle is very large. Are there enough holes in the fender to allow the stirrups to shorten to correct length for a short legged rider? My 6 foot husband rides a 16 inch saddle.

Seat size does not only equate to the size of your jeans. The length of your leg from your hip bone to your knee is how you figure saddle seat size.

A 17 inch english saddle is a 15 inch western.
Yeah, a 17 inch saddle is extremely large, but I like it. Lol. I'll have to check and see if the stirrups can be raised to her level... I'm pretty sure they can be.


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IMO- Britt, you said in one of the first few posts that this girl has "no horse sense." If she doesn't have any horse sense, she has no business riding any horse, and certainly not on a trail. That's an accident waiting to happen. IF you choose to allow her to ride anyway, DEMAND that she wear a helmet, and ride the way YOU say, with the saddle and bit YOU see fit. This is YOUR horse, NOT hers, and your rules are the only ones that count. Good luck!
Yes, I did say she has no horse sense, and it's true... it's like when she's on a horse most, if not all, of her common sense leaves her. (at least, though, she's not like my cousin who will run right up to a strange stallion and sling up onto its back without even thinking about what consequences her actions may have).

Shanna knows what she can and can't do with my mare... but she's constantly begging me to let her do it anyway. She can't understand why I won't let her canter my mare bareback, though she knows why and knows that I will barely canter my girl bareback. She knows the simpler things, like not flat out galloping my girl (I'm the only one who can do that, lol), not running my girl up a steep mountain trail (again, I'm the only one who can do that because I've been up those trails with my mare more than anyne else has)... she knows to do things like let my girl have her head when going down something extremely steep, but she just can't understand why she's not supposed to run behind a horse, why she's not supposed to do things like go out in a pasture with strange horses, why I don't allow her to ride my girl bareback or with the english saddle very often, and stuff like that...



Thanks for the replies everyone... I'm going to be doing a lot of thinking this week and come Saturday I'm going to lay down a few rules for EVERYONE riding with me. I'm the oldest going, so it's my responsibility that everyone's safe. (Even when I'm riding with my older cousins [[which isn't very often]] I'm the one making sure everyne stays safe because a lot of my famil gets drunk when they ride... I've had to pull my 24 year old cousin and his sisters horse out of the way of an 18-wheeler coming down the highway once because he was drunk and didn't know what was going on and I've had to lead thatsame person and his sisters horse home because he got so drunk he passed out on the horse before...).
     
    03-02-2009, 03:29 PM
  #16
Trained
Wow... I don't know if I would feel comfortable with this girl riding my horse out of the arena. You could be setting yourself up for some major liability issues if she gets injured on your horse. Not from her, but from insurance companies and such. Its a pain.

I am trying to figure out the same thing with my friend and my horse. Basically she is one of those "I love to RUN" riders that wants to always ride bareback and doesn't have sh*t for a seat. Hasn't been on a horse for more than an hour in 10 years. She loves my horse and says because he loves her (he's loves to cuddle) she should be able to ride him because he "wouldn't hurt her". Well he's pretty good, but when he gets nervous he has a tendency to explode (spin, run, etc), stop thinking (has broken more than one lead rope) and he can turn/stop on a dime. So even though I've been best friends with this girl for 15 years I had to tell her that she cannot ride Soda at all until I have him better trained and then IF I decide to let her ride, she rides in the paddock, under my supervision, and in a saddle. She doesn't like it and pokes at me sometimes about it, but I'm standing firm. I care too much about her and him to let something stupid happen by putting them in a situation that is asking for trouble.

It sounds like you're making a good choice with laying down the rules for everyone. Good luck though, people can be a pain when it comes to horses! Everyone knows everything right? Including me, LOL!
     
    03-02-2009, 05:38 PM
  #17
Started
Lol... Yeah, everyone knows everything...

I don't mind running at all... when I ride, no matter who I ride with I always let my mare open up at least once and just gallop full tilt for about a mile... But I never canter unless I have a saddle (western saddle) on my mare... I'll only canter bareback if it's a horse I know for a fact won't buck or anything.

I'm going to let her ride, since I have in the past, but I'm going to start laying down certain rules.
     
    03-02-2009, 06:12 PM
  #18
Trained
My cousin rides my pony, as well as Parelli_7 on this forum, and I'm nowhere near as safety concious as you... Well that amkes me sound negligent. I guess as long as it's not hurting the horse, I let them make mistakes etc. It's what they learn from, especially my cousin. She used to ride my old pony bugsy, and she fell off him nearly every ride for a month or two. And she learnt bucketloads. I mean obviously I don't send begginers off galloping, etc, but I let them do things that might be out of their comfort zone, I push them to get better, etc. Obviously it's a different thing at Pony Club and such. Also, it's fairly agreed upon that falling is a part of riding and will happen.

BUT, on the same note, they always follow my rules as they are on my horses. I tell them what gear to use, what things they can attempt in regards to the horses safety, etc. In this situation I would tell her, ride in my western saddle or don't ride at all. It's really as simple as that.
     
    03-02-2009, 06:30 PM
  #19
Trained
Sorry, I probably sounded like a stick in the mud. Don't get me wrong I gallop, full out bareback races with my other friends. Jump bareback, swim my horse and everything else. But I can stick on my horse and I know what his signs are when he's close to freaking out. This girl doesn't have the skills to trot bareback and all she wants to do is run. If she falls off and hurts herself badly (we're older so its a little more likely, get more brittle as you get older) and gets a bunch of medical bills or isn't able to take care of her children I won't be able to forgive myself. But it sounds like you have the situation under control so that's great.
     
    03-02-2009, 06:44 PM
  #20
Trained
That's fair enough. My dad won't ride because of the risk of getting injured and not being able to work... I know those fears!
     

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