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post #1 of 19 Old 10-15-2012, 10:46 AM Thread Starter
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What should I do? What would you do?

I recently leased out my mare. Spring of 2014 I will be starting nursing school and was concerned about being able to work enough hours to be able to keep her. I knew I didn't want to sell her, but I didn't expect her to have an interested party so soon. She is leased out at a place 4 hours away from me and I am 100% miserable. I will admit that I have been spirally down into a depression. I was riding a friends horse, but it's just not the same. I have also talked to my trainer about doing a half lease on one of her lesson horses. I leased from her before but got frustrated because there were a lot of people using the same horse.
I want her closer, and I wish I had looked more into a half lease or cheaper board. I have found a place literally next door where I could keep her for just the cost of hay (I would provide grain and do self care). However, her leasor adores her. She has only been leased out for a month. I want so badly to go get her. What would others do on this situation? Hurt somebody to be happy again, or just suck it up and try to "get over this hump."
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post #2 of 19 Old 10-15-2012, 10:51 AM
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What were the terms of your lease? What happens in 2014 when you go to school, will you be able to care for your horse at this inexpensive place still?
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post #3 of 19 Old 10-15-2012, 11:25 AM
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What ARE the terms of the lease, as far as you ending the lease the taking her back?

As far as the emotional side goes, no, it's never the same to ride someone else's horse than it is to ride your own. I spent 4 years in graduate school away from my horses. Couldn't afford to have them travel with me and wouldn't have the time anyway. I found horses and people to ride with during that time, but it just isn't that "ah old comfy couch" feeling you get on your own horse. It sucks, but it can be done.

Although I'm curious as to why you leased her out now when you aren't starting school for over another year in spring 2014?

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post #4 of 19 Old 10-15-2012, 11:41 AM
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^^I was going to ask that too. Why did you lease her so far in advance?

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post #5 of 19 Old 10-15-2012, 12:35 PM Thread Starter
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The lease is pretty open, no set time frame, just that we have to give each other 30 days of notice if either of us needs to back out. I guess I was thinking that it may take some time to find her a good place, I didn't expect a really good one to pop up so quickly.
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post #6 of 19 Old 10-15-2012, 12:44 PM
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You could talk to the leassor, but to be honest, I think it would be unfair to take your horse back if the leassor is doing everything you asked her to do. It was your mistake to lease too early, so not fair to punish her for that.
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post #7 of 19 Old 10-15-2012, 01:03 PM
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Bottom line, the lessee knows this horse isn't hers. If you're so totally miserable without her, give the lessee 30 days notice and bring her home.

Yeah, it kind of sucks for your lessee, but she knew going in that the horse belonged to someone else.
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post #8 of 19 Old 10-15-2012, 01:04 PM
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I also do not think it would be fair to the leasee. But it is your horse and your decision. I would give it a while and then see how it is a few months down the road.
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post #9 of 19 Old 10-15-2012, 01:25 PM
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leasee/ leassor , I get them mixed up.

I would think , if I wear the leassee, that the only circumstances that the owner would likely take the hrose away from me were if she thought I was not doing a good enough job. So, having the horse taken away just becuase the owner was lonely would seem totally unfair.
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post #10 of 19 Old 10-15-2012, 03:47 PM
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Make sure you have insurance on her in case something goes wrong!
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