Originally Posted by Corporal
First, I'm sorry that you're so miserable. If your trainer is interested, tell him/her about the situation. If your trainer is interested in leasing as part of the lesson program, IMHO, DO IT. That is, give the 30 days notice and move the horse.
When I didn't have a horse--as my DD's say, "in the before time"--I thought that I'd never let anyone else touch my horse. In order to afford any horses, I bought 6 and opened a riding academy. The BEST thing for my horses was to be handled and ridden by others, under supervision. They need to be desensitized to everything, and not be panicky when a new person handles or rides them. If you trust your trainer, your horse will just get better. When you can eke out the time to ride, you won't be riding/training the whole time, and IMO, you'll enjoy your riding time even more.
Sadly, leasing to my trainer was the first option I explored. She will only take on horses that can at least jump 2 foot as her lesson program is geared towards eventing. Skye is for sure not a jumper. Ground poles were a strain.
I am exploring leasing options, either one of my trainer's lesson horses, or doing a half-lease on a totally different horse. I am not 100% happy with lease horse shopping, but a good friend of mine last night suggested that perhaps if I have a horse that I can do dressage with and show next year, that I can "get over" Skye for now.