Join Date: Jul 2010
Location: State of Confusion (SC)
I'm confused about a few things:
1. It's your horse, how can your mother refuse to let you ride it?
2. It's your horse, how can your mother refuse access to it? You need a key!
With her attitude, I realize that it would be difficult to sell the horse (how would you show it to potential buyers?) BUT...he's doing xc, 6ft. Jumps and dressage...Somebody besides your family must be aware of him?
Your mom obviously wants the horse, or she'd be more open to you selling him and repaying the money. Can you not find someone to loan you the 300 until you sell him and then can repay the money? This money seems to be the sticking point. Once you pay your mom, she has no more say in the issue as long as you stay out of debt with her. Then sell the horse!!! OR...let her have it, (it cost you nothing) walk away and take it as a valuable lesson learned: Don't ever put a horse with family again!!!
The whole situation with your mom and sister is a side issue. You obviously have family issues. As I see it, your mom has 2 daughters: 1 is 18 and in college. 1 is 27, a single mother, marginally employed, and on public funds. She is critical of your weight (I'm not familiar with "stones" as a weight unit, so I'm not prepared to comment.) Weight is a very personal issue....but it would seem your mom is unhappy with you. Is she using weight as an issue, when there are other issues she isn't discussing?
At 27, you need to remove yourself from this situation. You are an adult with a child, yet your mother is treating you as a child she can control. Sell the horse or walk away from it, get better employment and stand on your own. Worrying about what your sister has is something a child does...not an adult. Get your own life in order and quit worrying about what your sister has or doesn't have. If your mom is treating you unfairly, well then she is. Face it and live with it, because at 27, it's childish to complain about it. Get on with your own life and if you have to sell the horse or let it go in order to do so....then do it. Squabbling about it isn't helping you advance yourself. As my father would say....fish or cut bait!
I'm not a complete idiot--there are parts missing!
What you have become is the price you paid to get what you used to want.
Last edited by HagonNag; 10-04-2012 at 03:36 AM.