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post #11 of 35 Old 10-11-2012, 02:58 PM Thread Starter
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That's a good idea too I love doing groundwork. I've been doing some with the ones I have now because my confidence isn't the best at the moment and my riding horse was sold as something for a novice rider but I don't think a horse that sits down while riding a good novice horse (She sat on someones car the last time I rode her)
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post #12 of 35 Old 10-11-2012, 02:58 PM
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Mabey you can sell one of them as a compromise.

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post #13 of 35 Old 10-11-2012, 02:59 PM
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sounds like you have a plan formulating.

selling them may be the right thing. maybe not. see about getting lessons for sure, and heck you have two horses right there see if your mom will take them with you. maybe this could turn out into some quality bond time with your mom and something you can BOTH enjoy together. but nothing will get done without some communication.

good luck with your family meeting and keep your head up. things will work out.
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post #14 of 35 Old 10-11-2012, 03:08 PM Thread Starter
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We don't have a trailer they couldn't be taken to the riding school and I don't really get on with my new trainer (She trys to force me into things I can't do) but I might be able to get my old trainer to help me.. She really helped my with my confidence before, after she was done with me I could walk, trot, canter, gallop and jump about 2'6ft and I learned all of this on a stupid cob that spooked at everything. So I'll go ask over and ask her sometime tomorrow afternoon.
Thanks everyone I really appreciate all of your advice
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post #15 of 35 Old 10-11-2012, 03:38 PM
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Is there a barn near you where you can go and spend time with horses? maybe selling would be good for now until you get older and find the right horse for yourself.
I use to work for a stable when I was younger, so I could ride. Is that an option for you?
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post #16 of 35 Old 10-11-2012, 03:47 PM Thread Starter
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Well my trainer has a few horses, 3 of them can be ridden but one is a stallion and the other one was gelded late so can be a bit of a handful and the other one has bad balance but she's a really good horse I rode her before I rode the cob and she looks after people really well. She might have a youngster I can ride (I backed her last year but I don't know what training she's had since then).
There is also a tack shop but the only things I could ride would be quite young as they break youngsters for people.
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post #17 of 35 Old 10-11-2012, 04:10 PM
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A family meeting is exactly what I was going to suggest. :) Best of luck to you with your meeting & in whatever you may decide/compromise on together!

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post #18 of 35 Old 10-12-2012, 11:55 AM Thread Starter
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So I talked to my mum and grandad and my mum has said that she's happy to sell them both and get me a bombproof cob with no personality because she still thinks that my horses are going to kill me. Now my grandad is a little bit more difficult because he chose these horses and he thinks that he's failed at something because he didn't pick the right ones. I saw the companion horse twice and the second time I saw her I knew we wouldn't get along very well and my riding horse I only saw once but my grandad said that we'd take her because he thought we clicked (we didn't) so I didn't get a say in in at all. He doesn't understand that no all horses and riders get along and he's trying to get me to work with and ride a horse that I'm slightly scared of.
Now he's saying that if we sell the two I have I can't get another one because he can't afford to keep it so there are holes in his logic. My mum is going to talk to him and tell him that it's not fair for him to force me into something I don't want to do.
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post #19 of 35 Old 10-12-2012, 12:19 PM
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I am trying to think of a decent analogy. It would be kind of like me getting my 11 year old nephew a 12guage shotgun as his first firearm. Not the best choice for a kid who is a beginner. Something better would have been a much milder .22 so that he could build confidence and the recoil wouldn't be bad.

Or getting a Rottweiler for a first dog. Great dogs, they just might be too much for an uneducated owner.

Or getting a very powerful sports car for your kids first car.

Or dating a guy that your friend set you up with that was totally wrong for you. It isn't your friend's fault you broke up.

Keep your grandfather in the loop and have him help you. Make sure you let him know that he is the GREATEST granddad I. The world and you love him more than anything for helping you have horses. Have him help you find another, and do your best to keep your mom from thinking that anything he gets for you is wrong. Write him up a list of things you want in a horse.
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post #20 of 35 Old 10-12-2012, 12:57 PM
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Sounds like a great compromise idea by your mum. Sell the horses, get one you can ride safely (always wear a helmet!), and grandpa will just have to deal with it. Tell him that you very much appreciate his gift, but really need a horse at your level. In a way, it will still be HIS gift since the horses he purchased opened the door for you to get the new horse.

Good luck. You sound like you have a good head on your shoulders. Don't let anybody bully you (even family!) into something you know is dangerous or isn't right.
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