Join Date: Apr 2008
Location: Gallant, Alabama
What would you do in this situation?
I'm just curious...
I have a cousin who I love to death. She's one of my best friends and we hang out a lot. She's horse-crazy and has her own horse (a senior kid-broke Arabian gelding). We used to ride together a lot, but lately we've been having some issues... mainly riding issues.
Here's the scope...
I ride in groups a LOT. Groups of 3-5 other riders, depending. I rarely ride just me and another person and prefer to ride in groups, especially since now I have my aggressive-under-saddle gelding a saddle that fits him and have started working on his issues with riding in groups.
I invite my cousin to go riding whenever I go, because she likes to ride, and she's always super gung-ho about it. Really excited and eager to go out riding... but she has started chickening out a lot right when we're about to leave. Before I had a properly fitting saddle for my gelding, her horse was the only horse I could safely ride him with aside from my mare, so my cousin and I rode just the two of us a lot... however, now that I'm riding Dakota in groups, she's quit coming out with us. She's making all sorts of excuses (and she's not scared of riding in groups, she's done it a lot before) such as not going if certain people are going, claiming she has to go 'babysit' her grandparents, and the other day she just left me hanging and didn't even bother to call and tell me she'd decided to not go!
I'm upset with her to the point that I've decided to not even bother to invite her anymore... I'm not going to talk to her about it because she gets defensive easily and I don't want her upset, but it's got to the point that I have had people we ride with ask me if my cousin doesn't like them, because she doesn't ever want to go out with us and that's how she's acting.
What would yall do in this scenario?
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