I don't know how to go about this but I have to bring it up and ask how everyone else would. I've just about reached the end of my "being nice" point.
All this week my friend has been with me when I go to feed my horse (we hung out all this week) I absolutely love her and she's been with me for a year now but, every time I ask her to put my horse in the paddock she smacks his butt when he's walking off.
I don't think it's necessary and I told her that I don't want him getting used to that or thinking that he's being scolded for something he didn't do. I mean not that he deserves it at all but, whatever.
Today she did it again and I got really mad but, was so pissed off I kept my cool and didn't say a word. It's not a hard smack but, it's a decently good one.
Pretty much this: I ask her to put him in the ring to let him roll around and run. Takes his halter and puts it on him, puts him in the ring (takes halter off) and as he's walking off with his butt torwards her (not threatening way, just walking away) she smacks his butt.
I've asked her more than once that I don't want her to do stuff like that but, i'm assuming it just hasn't gotten across to her. How can I tell her without having to raise my voice?