As for the bonding/affection thing, try and be patient. Bonds don't happen overnight, and often don't happen in weeks and even months. True, there are some horses who are completely in your pocket and will glom on to the human they see the most and do so quickly. But, many horses aren't like that and it will take quite a bit of time to get a solid bond formed. Unfortunately, you may not be able to make your purchase decision based on how strong your bond feels in this first month. But, if you feel you can trust her and grow your relationship, than that's the important thing.
I think she's just a friendly mare. She does up to everyone, and loves butt rubs!!! I do believe that she has bonded to me a little bit, as today I was standing outside her round pen, just leaning on it, and she wouldnt leave my side, other than to turn around and back her butt up into my hands.
I refuse to base my decision on bond alone, I realize that bonding and trust is something that is earned through time. I do feel like I can grow with her, and develop an extremely strong relationship with her, but only through time.
Originally Posted by CacheDawnTaxes View Post
She is quite nicely put together. Have you taken her out of what she is currently used to, as in have you taken her out for a walk away from other horses and seen what she is like? I am actually surprised they are only asking that much for her even if she does need more work.
Because of the dental work and the her feet needing some correcting, I would use that counter balance what he is asking for her and take the price down. Make a list of all those things and say hey, "this is what she needs done, I have found another horse I really like that does not require any of that touch up work, she is worth my while if you're willing to take her price down to so and so, to make up for the difference I need to spend for the difference" then hand him an $700-800 cheque.
If you have feelings that she is the right horse for you, then do it. EVERY horse will need adjustment regardless of how well trained they are. Cobalt didn't start off the way he is now.
I personally like her by confo alone. I think for what you want to do her build is beautiful so if her temper and her temper fits what you are looking for, why miss out? I suggest finishing your trial just to make sure then see what the gent offers yea for deal.
I did take her out for a walk today, nothing big, because she had a big day today. She is very alert, very inquisitive. Im almost questioning how well of a trail horse she'd make... Just because she's kinda flighty and spooky at new things, and forget about things that scare her and make her jump! lol
The owner has the full price in hand, so I doubt cutting a deal would be in the works. I do agree that 1000 is a pretty good price for her, as right now she's been a pretty good girl, considering the new scary barn.
My trainer says that we match well, and that I just need to stop being a baby, which I am trying. We do feed off of each other's energy, so when she knows I'm scared, she'll get scared and so on. OYE!
I do need to be at least 90% sure that she is the horse for me per the agreement I made with my husband. If I am at least that sure, then I will have his blessing in buying the horse.
Hopefully she'll be fine. Also, as they learn to trust you, they settle. This new mare I just brought home today is head shy. I hate that. We will fix it though... she will not be head shy for long....
You got a new horse???? Did you name her Moxie?
Moxie, if, while walking your horse around, you expect her to jump when you encounter something, then she will. She will pick up your vibes before you've had a chance to realize you gave them off. Her courage in the new place will come from you. She is thinking, "well she knows it here and if she is scared, then I better be too!!"
Oh I know! I am working so hard not to anticipate her spooking. I dont know how to correct that part of myself, I dont know how to make that better. Being cautious and anticipating is a part of who I am, I am naturally an up-tight person, so being able to relax is an effort for me.
Today she had a blood draw, it was free, so... eh. Of course I completely forgot about it, and went out to work her like I normally do. I started off with a lunge, which she didnt like, she ended up rearing up on me!!!! I'm not sure if it was something I did, or not. But, I made her move out again and in that same direction, so we ended that on a good note.
We worked on standing in place, and leading behind me, and staying out of my bubble, which she is getting so much better about!! Then... I had a goal of being able to bridle and saddle her, which I did!!!! It took me about an hour, but I did it. The biggest deal was getting her bridled, as she needs to learn to lower her head, so each time I'd get the bit in her mouth, she'd raise her head before I'd get the ear piece of her ear... So yea, I fought with that for awhile, but I DID IT!!!!!!! After that we walked around the arena, and then de-tacked.
After a good work out, I took her out to her round pen and just sat with her for a bit. One thing that I have found is that she LOVES to have her butt rubbed!!! lol It was SOOOOOOOOOO funny, I was on the outside of the round pen, leaning on a rail, and she would back her butt up into my hands! I would move, she'd turn and look at me, and then back up again. So finally I got the idea, and gave her a goooooooooood butt rubbin.