Whats the best way to tell my mom that... - The Horse Forum

Reply
 
LinkBack Thread Tools
post #1 of 13 Old 12-13-2010, 04:42 PM Thread Starter
Foal
 
Join Date: Nov 2010
Location: Pittsburgh Pa.
Posts: 122
• Horses: 2
Whats the best way to tell my mom that...

Okay so as some of you guys know i've been looking at horses for sale. I had talked to my mom about owning a horse of my own ever since I was six but finally my mom said maybe to the idea about 5 months ago. Ever since then i've just been looking at horses for sale just so I can see whats out there (She said maybe in a year I will own one after this years show season). And so Today I was looking at horses for sale and I found the horse that I just fell in love with. She's a mare, she's a bay and she is great in hunters. She has been there and done that. Which is the kind of horse I need for my first horse. Okay so the point is, how do I tell her that I found the horse that I feel has everything I'm looking for.See this wouldnt be so hard but she said in a year maybe. But what if I can't find a horse like this again? What if she isnt for sale? So tell me what you think...thanks(: Please no mean comments...
LindseyHunterx24 is offline  
Sponsored Links
Advertisement
 
post #2 of 13 Old 12-13-2010, 04:45 PM
Weanling
 
Join Date: Jul 2010
Location: GA
Posts: 466
• Horses: 0
All you can do is bring it up..you have nothing to lose right now. If she says no, then you will just have to wait. There are so many horses for sale these days that you will fall in love with another one, there are also plenty of been there done that horses out there. If she is the right one it will work out. : )

"I am only one, but still I am one. I cannot do everything but I can still do something. I will not refuse to do the something I can do. " - Helen Keller
Regan7312 is offline  
post #3 of 13 Old 12-13-2010, 04:56 PM
Banned
 
Join Date: Oct 2010
Location: Mississippi, Usa
Posts: 2,978
• Horses: 0
Yeah, just ask, the worst is she'll say no. Do you have any other pets? You can start to take care of them, feed, water, etc. and that might increase the chance of her saying yes, cause it shows responsibility.
Katesrider011 is offline  
post #4 of 13 Old 12-13-2010, 04:58 PM
Banned
 
Join Date: Oct 2010
Location: Mississippi, Usa
Posts: 2,978
• Horses: 0
sorry for double posting. Regans right as well, there are plenty of other horses out there, too. Waiting sucks yes, but waiting pays off.
Katesrider011 is offline  
post #5 of 13 Old 12-13-2010, 05:00 PM Thread Starter
Foal
 
Join Date: Nov 2010
Location: Pittsburgh Pa.
Posts: 122
• Horses: 2
Quote:
Originally Posted by Katesrider011 View Post
Yeah, just ask, the worst is she'll say no. Do you have any other pets? You can start to take care of them, feed, water, etc. and that might increase the chance of her saying yes, cause it shows responsibility.

Yea I have other pets I already take care of them and stuff. Another thing is that she wants to lease before we buy. But I really like this horse. So maybe I could talk to the owner and I could lease the horse and then if I do like her I could buy her :\
LindseyHunterx24 is offline  
post #6 of 13 Old 12-13-2010, 05:04 PM
Banned
 
Join Date: Oct 2010
Location: Mississippi, Usa
Posts: 2,978
• Horses: 0
Quote:
Originally Posted by LindseyHunterx24 View Post
Yea I have other pets I already take care of them and stuff. Another thing is that she wants to lease before we buy. But I really like this horse. So maybe I could talk to the owner and I could lease the horse and then if I do like her I could buy her :\
Well that Idea shot down the drain. :/ Well I guess you can just hope. If it doesn't work out, then wait and there will be other chances.
Katesrider011 is offline  
post #7 of 13 Old 12-13-2010, 05:06 PM
Weanling
 
Join Date: Feb 2010
Location: Loudoun County, VA
Posts: 655
• Horses: 3
Honestly, there will always be another horse. You could approach her about it, but I wouldn't use the reason of "there won't be another horse like this!" because that's really not true.

Be logically, not emotional. "This horse is a good deal because it's had XX training, it's been competing XXX, and it's only $XXXX. I could do YYY with it, and I'd be able to advance my riding. The icing on the cake is that she's a beautiful bay, my favorite color!"

And if she says no, be understanding. Parents usually always want to give their children everything, and they don't like breaking your heart. Just remember she's a person too, trying to take care of a family with a lot on her mind, and she may have a very good reason for saying no.
ptvintage is offline  
post #8 of 13 Old 12-13-2010, 05:15 PM
Foal
 
Join Date: Jun 2010
Posts: 44
• Horses: 0
my wife used the "there won't be another horse like this" on me... several times. I said not yet... several times... I eventually said yes because we were in a financially stable situation for her to finally get one. Catch my drift? There's always going to be something when it's time :)
Nanaki is offline  
post #9 of 13 Old 12-13-2010, 08:43 PM
Green Broke
 
Join Date: Aug 2009
Location: New South Wales, Australia
Posts: 4,749
• Horses: 1
It's best to talk to your parent first about a horse before you start looking at the for sales. I know its fun but it can also cause bitter feelings and conflict when you don't get what you want.

You could bring this up with her but I don't like your chances. You are better off sitting down with your mother and really discussing what you want from a horse. Her ideal price range may be very different to yours. When my family bought me my first horse they thought $500 was a lot to pay (people just don't know) - they ended up tripling that for a first horse.

Talk to your mum about what training you want, age you want, height you want so that when you find a horse she can judge it for you on its merits, not how much you like it. Find out where you will keep the horse etc, and work out a real time frame. Write this information down. This way if something perfect does come up early you can tell your mother - but you'll also know what your limitations are.

You could ask this person about a lease, but honestly if they wanted to lease the horse they'd offer it on a lease. It often irritates sellers when people want to lease a horse they're trying to sell. They want money and the horse gone, leasing does none of that.
Saskia is offline  
post #10 of 13 Old 12-13-2010, 09:09 PM
Super Moderator
 
Join Date: Oct 2009
Location: Seattle, WA
Posts: 38,489
• Horses: 2
Does your Mom know what horse ownership entails? Has she a price range for the horse that you can get? The bay you love (and I saw the video) is a delightful horse, but might be over the amount she was thinking. I have no idea of your financial situation, but I could NEVER in a million years talk my husband into buying me a $10,000. Horse.
tinyliny is offline  
Reply

Quick Reply
Message:
Options

Register Now



In order to be able to post messages on the The Horse Forum forums, you must first register.

Already have a Horse Forum account?
Members are allowed only one account per person at the Horse Forum, so if you've made an account here in the past you'll need to continue using that account. Please do not create a new account or you may lose access to the Horse Forum. If you need help recovering your existing account, please Contact Us. We'll be glad to help!

New to the Horse Forum?
Please choose a username you will be satisfied with using for the duration of your membership at the Horse Forum. We do not change members' usernames upon request because that would make it difficult for everyone to keep track of who is who on the forum. For that reason, please do not incorporate your horse's name into your username so that you are not stuck with a username related to a horse you may no longer have some day, or use any other username you may no longer identify with or care for in the future.



User Name:
Password
Please enter a password for your user account. Note that passwords are case-sensitive.

Password:


Confirm Password:
Email Address
Please enter a valid email address for yourself.

Email Address:
OR

Log-in









Human Verification

In order to verify that you are a human and not a spam bot, please enter the answer into the following box below based on the instructions contained in the graphic.


Old Thread Warning
This thread is more than 90 days old. When a thread is this old, it is often better to start a new thread rather than post to it. However, If you feel you have something of value to add to this particular thread, you can do so by checking the box below before submitting your post.

Thread Tools
Show Printable Version Show Printable Version
Email this Page Email this Page



Similar Threads
Thread Thread Starter Forum Replies Last Post
Whats this? Vidaloco Horse Health 16 09-22-2008 11:30 AM
whats next? chasin the dream English Riding 4 06-24-2008 08:15 PM
Whats going on? RebelsRose Horse Health 7 06-23-2008 08:37 AM

Posting Rules  
You may post new threads
You may post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is Off
Trackbacks are On
Pingbacks are On
Refbacks are On

 
For the best viewing experience please update your browser to Google Chrome