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post #11 of 29 Old 12-25-2012, 11:18 AM
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Originally Posted by DancingArabian View Post
The jumping seems to be the sticking point. What do you new that you're looking for an "exceptional" jumper? Are you trying to do 6 foot courses or 3 foot courses? Are you sure it's just not a matter of training the Arab to jump?

Personally I'm kind of the opposite of you :) I love Arabs!
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I agree with this. If the Arab has the potential to jump, then I'd say go with the Arab. Like many others have said, your "dream horse" may not actually exist, and you'd be better off sticking with a horse you know. On the other hand, you may find your "dream horse", and then be sorely disappointed when things come up down the road with either the horse or your life.

Depending on how determined you are to do jumping, I'd stick with the Arab. If she does not have the build or movement to do jumping, then I'd keep looking. When I purchase a horse, I do so with no intention of having to "upgrade" in the future because you might not get that chance. There may not be a buyer. The horse may get injured. You never know what's going to happen. Plus, my horses are like family members and I could only sell them in the most dire of circumstances and if it was best for them. It sounds like this is the kind of relationship you want. So if you're going to feel limited with this Arab, then I say don't do it.

Last winter, I bought an Arabian for starting endurance that I just simply clicked with. I had no idea what I was doing as far as a horse for endurance, but luckily it turns out conformation isn't the biggest deal. He's slightly over at the knees. I didn't realize it until after I'd gotten him, but that's ok. He's good for what I want to do. But he'll never be a jumper. That's ok for now, because I can't afford jumping lessons nor have the facilities or means to be jumping, plus we're focusing on endurance. However, I do think that I will someday purchase a (third) horse that can do both jumping and endurance. But I can definitely hold of on that for quite a few years. When that time comes, I won't be selling my boy. We're going for the decade team in endurance :)
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post #12 of 29 Old 12-25-2012, 03:23 PM
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In the end, only you know if she is enough of what you want now to make up for what you might find later.

My mare Whiskey, my heart horse, was not the fancy colored, APHA western pleasure bred show gelding I was looking for, but I fell in love with her, plain brown wrapper, reining bred pedigree and all. We ended up a perfect team, have a great show record, and she now is a permanent member of my barn and the one who leads the others in from the pasture...

If I had unlimited funds, I probably wouldn't have brought her home - but I am on a budget, and accepting that reality has made me very grateful for what I have.
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post #13 of 29 Old 12-25-2012, 03:29 PM
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I never thought ST would be my heart horse. Didnt canter, she's a TB (I dont generally like the breed), her back's long, she's a mare, etc. But after working with her, she is a heart horse of mine (I think we get more than just one, personally..Luck was too, but she isnt mine to even see anymore). She has the mare attitude, shes spooky alone on the trails, she has a long back, and everything else I noted. But, she gives me her all at everything we do, and I can tell she trusts me, and I trust her to keep me safe. She might throw little fits, but she never gives enough to get me off, and I think she knows it.

So..Id go for that little arab mare of yours. While she's not the TB gelding with jumpers potential that you wanted, it seems like you really get along and have a bond. If you find that TB gelding afterwards, you can always sell her on or trade her for that dream horse.
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post #14 of 29 Old 12-25-2012, 03:32 PM
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I forgot to mention that I wanted anything but a chestnut. And guess what color my boy is? Yup, chestnut. in the ad, he looked like a crazy Arabian with a long neck and bug eyes. I only went to look at him because I had ruled out all of the other horses. Plus, I wanted a mare, not a gelding. And yet, It was love at first sight and I think he's gorgeous!
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post #15 of 29 Old 12-25-2012, 03:42 PM
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If she has that wow factor and you truly enjoy working with her, then maybe she IS your dream horse.

I set out looking for a 16.2hh+ registered dun/roan quarter horse about 10 months ago when I was looking for a horse. Every horse that fit my criteria was well over my budget. Just when I felt like giving up looking for a while I found an ad for my current horse, Skip. He is a grade 15hh chestnut quarter horse. The only things that actually fit my "list" is that he is a quarter horse and he is a gelding and I wanted a change from the mares I have had the last several years.

I can honestly say I didn't settle for him at all. I couldn't be happier with Skip, he is what I would call my "new dream horse." If I had passed him by because he didn't meet my standards I would have really missed out on an amazing animal that I couldn't imagine being without. Don't just pass her by because she is an Arabian or is a little small/old. But don't settle if you really feel like you will be and she cannot jump well, even with training.
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post #16 of 29 Old 12-25-2012, 08:32 PM
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It all happens, we always want that one horse that we picture in our heads. Sometimes we find one sometimes we don't.

What it comes down to is that if you and your horse are going to suit each others needs and wants.

I wanted a 16hh AQHA Hunt Seat gelding between the ages of 3-4 when I was looking for a horse...So then I bought a 15hh AQHA Western Pleasure filly yearling. It happens!

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post #17 of 29 Old 12-25-2012, 10:58 PM
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My very first horse was my "Dream Horse". He was imported from the Czech Republic, big jumping bloodlines, branded, pro trained, the works. He was only with me a year and then i sold him. He was NOT the horse for me. Then my trainer brought in this little paint cob that she was going to use for lessons, but he had too much jump, and was pretty hot. I ended up buying him and the rest is history. Although he was hardly my dream horse, he is now the light of my life!

So in short, my opinion would simply be, if you feel like you have a connection with the little mare, then try it out with her and see how it goes!

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post #18 of 29 Old 12-26-2012, 01:20 PM Thread Starter
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You are all right. There were points that I wasn't thinking about and views that I might have missed. I spent half of Christmas night thinking about what to do. I've also spoken with my trainer who has helped me bring the Arab this far. She seems to think while the Arab will never be a jumping pro, she can jump and can be taken to shows, which is essentially a good start for me. Maybe in 5 years I can have a pro jumper, but this not only works best for me now, but gets me experience. I know that little mare very well and she seems to listen best to me as opposed to any of the other people who ride her. She isn't 16 hh, she isn't chestnut, she isn't male, she isn't a great jumper, and she isn't a thoroughbred. But like you all said, maybe she doens't have to be. I know her heart and she feels mine. I've already decided I'm going to by her. Another plus is that TBs tend to have horrible feet. This little girl has amazing feet and is also barefoot. Yay for trims only! I can't thank you enough for making me see that my dream may very well be right in front of my face. Why look for something else when something perfect is already with you. One of you said "a bird in hand is worth two in a bush" and you are completely right. So I'm buying my dream. She may not be the dream I had in my head for years, but in the words of Tangled: "You're my new dream".

Now I just gotta think up a new name for her. Her current name is horrible: Najah (pronounced Na-sh-a, not Na-Ha, as the lady at the show kept saying, haha). I once had a dream I had a black arab named Vesper, so I'm thinking that, possibly Whisper. Hopefully everyone at the barn will take to a new name, as we are all pretty much used to Najah. I am just so excited to be owning this girl.
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post #19 of 29 Old 12-26-2012, 01:23 PM
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Sounds like you found your match. I'm glad you don't feel like you're settling, and I wish you two many happy memories
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post #20 of 29 Old 12-26-2012, 05:12 PM
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Your quest for the best horse for you is always a tough challenge. It is one I share. The consideration of a horse trader came into the equation for me and it was a disaster. I share this to you as my profile of horse experience is like yours and that makes decision making all the more difficult. Have a look at this one Richards Stables, Oak Grove Missouri, Jim Richards, Shelley Richards, Horse Traders. I bet you will do better as it seems you are trying to be thorough. Good luck and safe rides.
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