With my work schedule the only time I can ride her is on the weekend... and when I get ready to ride she acts like its the end of the world. I have never had a horse that just flat out doesnt care and doesnt want to please me. I just feel like she needs a rider that can ride her more often and I can't. Its starting to be a task instead of fun. I don't think she would try to hurt me but sometimes I get worried about her mood.
I have health problems and thought I would sell my horse and buy one that was more family friendly. I had to call the buyer the morning that he was suppose to pick him up and tell him not to waste his time. I couldn't let him go. My buyer is my farrier and my best friend's son so it was ok to pull out last minute but I can't sell him even if it maybe best for him... it was not the best for me.
There is nothing wrong with admitting that a horse is not right for you, in fact I think it is admirable, as pride gets in the way of doing the right thing for a horse.
I bought a horse a few years ago, that needed retraining, basically all of it. My life changed, I became a foster parent and I couldn't do it. I waited close to a year to long to move that horse along, and I did the horse no favors while my pride got in the way.
Thanks... I guess I just need to suck it up and sale her to somebody with more time and find me a laid back trail horse. I have been looking for that perfect horse for 11 or so years... I know its mostly my fault for jumping the gun when I go ride a horse and click. I need to look at the next horse I buy more than one time... I know I will not get what I paid for her though...
No you won't but be honest and just tell the perspective buyer what she does good and what she isn't so great on. I admire that in a seller even if I don't buy the horse. Take your time with the next one.
I have problems with one of mine and have thought about selling her but the only reason I don't is she is extremely good with my boys. Our relationship is getting there but I have had to sacrifice my family time to make it work with her. Sometimes people don't have that time..
Nothing wrong in admitting it and getting a horse more that is suited for you and what you are doing now. Actually it is best all around. Good luck on selling her.
I've done exactly the same as you Annie, with my new mare. Jumped into buying her, but she's not right for me (same situation as you as well) I've tried telling my friends but they're just rude and say "you bought her, so now you have to work with her" I do work with her a lot, but then it becomes a chore every night after work doing join up, and then I never have time to ride. I think we're in a similar boat here.
My husband bought me three yearlings about 6 years ago. Two fillies and a gelding. I clicked with the gelding right away. He was tall, gorgeous, lovely personality. (So were the fillies, but I only had eyes for the gelding.) When they were three I sent him to the trainer for 30 days. He was going extremely well and I was riding him everywhere that year. Over the winter he didn't get ridden as much and come spring his whole demeanor changed. He started bucking me off. He went back to the trainer for another 30 days. Never bucked once with the trainer. I know it was rider error.
Well, I tried and tried to work him through it, but to no avail. I broke a rib and hubby said that was it. Horse had to go. I tried for a year to make things work with that gelding, but he was very sensitive and just too much horse for me. It got to the point that the thought of riding him made me sick, but I had to do it. I finally came to the realization that I wasn't having any fun and neither was the horse. It took a year to sell him (because I told everyone who looked at him about his bucking issue!) but he went to a very accomplished young lady who adores him and rides him every day.
Now that he has moved on, I have discovered a true jewel right under my nose.....the filly that went to training with him. I was so focused on the gelding, that I just absent-mindedly rode the filly. Once I really started working with her and giving her 100% of my attention I have watched us both blossom. Even though she has the same bloodlines as the gelding, she is just very laid back and forgiving. She takes it all in stride and gives her whole heart. Best thing I ever did was sell that gelding. I cried for a week because I loved him so much, but we are both better off for it.
Thanks everybody... it really puts my spirits up reading this. I get so down and out sometimes I feel like I will never find the right horse for me (since Daisy died)... I almost force my selft to ride Dolly and when I get done I'm almost in a bad mood. Then later on that day I ride with a few friends on their horses and I'm as happy as ever. I would never lie to anybody who takes a look at her... that's why I am in the situation I am in now. Thanks everybody :) OH and Holly my boyfriend bought me Dolly for christmas and he says "shes yours now you have to deal with it and work with her" My friends say the same thing... Nobody understands that if you don't connect with your horse its not fun for you or the horse. I have loved horses and riding since I was 12 so I don't want something like this to discourage me...