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post #1 of 5 Old 10-28-2007, 09:14 AM Thread Starter
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why do i feel this way all of a sudden?

ok. I've been trying to ignore this of late but its really getting to me so I need some help.

Every time I saddle my horses, I feel guilty. Why? I don't know. But I feel like its not my place to make them carry me around. After 24 years of riding, all of a sudden I feel like I shouldnt be doing it to them.

Every time I leave of a night time, I worry that I havent given them enough hay. Between the two of the horses that I have with me at the moment, I feed them about 2 1/2 bales of hay a day plus 3 hard feeds yet I can't stop this nagging fear that its not enough.

I put their rugs on and think about how they never needed this kind of thing in the wild so why am I dong it for them now. Putting straps between their legs etc etc etc

Im driving myself nuts and I need someone to ground me again. I know that my horses have known nothing but domestication thier whole lives but all of a sudden I have this guilt going on and I don't know where it came from. Its really getting me down and I sont know how to stop it.

Any words of wisdom would be greatly appreciated :)

"I whisper but my horse doesnt listen...So I yell!!...He still doesnt listen"


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post #2 of 5 Old 10-28-2007, 09:28 AM
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I think its called LOVE. You love your horses so much and want to do all you can for them and worry that its not enough. From what I have read on your posts you are a caring horse person. I think its the nurturing side of women in particular that makes us worry about the things we love. You can't be a humanitarian and not wish that all creatures could be free, but unfortunatly because of the domestication of horses they can't be left to their own devices without encountering all sorts of risks. Just a for instance, they were having problems this summer with drought in some states in the US. People were letting their horses go because they couldn't afford to feed them or whatever reason. These horses were getting hit by cars on the freeways! Granted they do have wild horses running free in some western states but these horses are generally not in the best of health. Regular "rescues" are done and they are adopeted out.
I think for the most part our horses do enjoy human contact. I know mine do and they seem to like going out on a jaunt. Its better for them to be loved and cared for then left on their own and if they don't want us on their back they do have ways of getting us off Hope this makes you feel better


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post #3 of 5 Old 10-28-2007, 09:37 AM Thread Starter
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I think its called LOVE. You love your horses so much and want to do all you can for them and worry that its not enough. From what I have read on your posts you are a caring horse person. I think its the nurturing side of women in particular that makes us worry about the things we love. You can't be a humanitarian and not wish that all creatures could be free, but unfortunatly because of the domestication of horses they can't be left to their own devices without encountering all sorts of risks. Just a for instance, they were having problems this summer with drought in some states in the US. People were letting their horses go because they couldn't afford to feed them or whatever reason. These horses were getting hit by cars on the freeways! Granted they do have wild horses running free in some western states but these horses are generally not in the best of health. Regular "rescues" are done and they are adopeted out.
I think for the most part our horses do enjoy human contact. I know mine do and they seem to like going out on a jaunt. Its better for them to be loved and cared for then left on their own and if they don't want us on their back they do have ways of getting us off Hope this makes you feel better
thanks :) maybe you're right. I love my horses sooooo much and I do worry about whether or not im doing the right thing by them. I've been in this horse world my whole life (28 years) and horses are everything to me. I guess as I get further along in my life, I am more nurturing and yes, as a woman this is natural :) I just don't know where it came from all of a sudden.

You have made me feel better. I guess you have reinforced what I already know and maybe I should just work on getting back to basics in my head. I look after my horses the best I can and I guess if they werent happy they would let me know :) after all, they have 100% more than they did before I got them. And when I rise my mare she gets so excited and goey these days. If she wasnt happy she would dump me or not move at all lol I guess im just a big sap lol

Thanks vida :) as always, you're a rock :)

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post #4 of 5 Old 10-28-2007, 09:45 AM
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Glad I could help, even a little bit. I always thought I could be a very good vegitarian if I didn't have such a carnivore for a husband I'm off to do chores have a good day!


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post #5 of 5 Old 10-28-2007, 06:31 PM Thread Starter
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Glad I could help, even a little bit. I always thought I could be a very good vegitarian if I didn't have such a carnivore for a husband I'm off to do chores have a good day!
lol that's funny :)

Thanks again. You have a good day too :)

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