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        02-12-2013, 01:32 PM
      #1
    Foal
    Why does this horse dislike me?

    In an attempt to get "closure" on an unfortunate situation, I'm asking for help in understanding why this horse acts disrespectful, even aggressive toward me. She'll be leaving soon at my request.
    As a favor to a neighbor, we let him keep his 6 year old (green?) mare on our property (unconfined--more fencing not an option). She is here to protect her from local horse theives. The owner said she came from the rez (indian reservation). Both the owner, a man, and my husband have excellent rapport with this mare--she adores them and lets them ride her bare back. I heard that another rider she drove into the fence. I love animals but I know dogs, not horses. I had no problems with the trained Arabians who were here before--they followed me around. This mare, however, has scared me more than once. I've always been kind to her and given her apples and carrots. When trying to scratch her neck or head, she'd always pull back from me. Yesterday she was at the front steps when the dog and I went out. I made her back up by pushing on her and telling her "back" to give me room and she did. I kept my eye on her however--a few more feet and she suddenly reared up! I moved out of the way and then she took off after my dog (who has always avoided her) nearly clipping his hindquarters. I won't go outside until she's gone and unfortunately it will likely mean she is turned loose on the rez according to the owner. Help me understand what might be up with this poor horse--she doesn't like me because she doesn't like inexperienced folks? Doesn't like women? A women once abused her? What do you think? I feel sorry for her but can't have her around--I sure gave her a chance.
         
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        02-12-2013, 01:45 PM
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    Weanling
    Her not liking women is a possibility... I have had geldings in the past that HATE men, but adore women... You mentioned she scared you, she can feel the "vibe" if you are nervous around her, so she may just be trying to intimidate you even more...

    My gelding used to do this to my Grandma, she would walk down our driveway and always bring apples/carrots for the horses, she is very inexperienced with them, my gelding thought he could rule her cause he knew she was nervous and tempted her with that, even ended up biting her, although I had warned her many times to stay away from him when I was not around.

    Maybe you can gain confidence by going to see the horse with the owner? Get him to hold her so you can pet her, see what her reaction is then if he is around?

    Good luck!!
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        02-12-2013, 01:53 PM
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    Trained
    Sometimes we just don't "click" with a particular horse. Just like not everyone is best friends with everyone else and sometimes we even have a gut reaction of intense dislike, it can be that way with a horse too.

    I wouldn't worry about it, if the horse is disrespectful and intimidates you to the point you're a prisoner in your own home, it's time for that horse to hit the road.

    I would not concern myself with what happens to the horse once it leaves your property, it's the owner's responsibility and it sounds to me like he's done an excellent job of getting anyone but HIM to take care of that responsibility.
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        02-12-2013, 03:20 PM
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    Foal
    [QUOTE=Fulford15;1890961]Her not liking women is a possibility... I have had geldings in the past that HATE men, but adore women... You mentioned she scared you, she can feel the "vibe" if you are nervous around her, so she may just be trying to intimidate you even more...

    My gelding used to do this to my Grandma, she would walk down our driveway and always bring apples/carrots for the horses, she is very inexperienced with them, my gelding thought he could rule her cause he knew she was nervous and tempted her with that, even ended up biting her, although I had warned her many times to stay away from him when I was not around.

    Maybe you can gain confidence by going to see the horse with the owner? Get him to hold her so you can pet her, see what her reaction is then if he is around?

    Thank you SO much for sharing about your Grandma's experience. It helps. This mare does try to bite me too. She ignores me for the most part when the owner or my husband are around. Normally it's just my husband...maybe she's a little jealous? Grateful to have had a positive experience with the 4 Arabians here before (two males, two females)--their owner was a woman and they had been trained and ridden.
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        02-12-2013, 03:25 PM
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    Showing
    The horse doesn't hate you, she merely considers you lower on the pecking order than the owner and your husband because they know how to make her behave. The fact that you're a woman may have little to nothing to do with it, and it's not out of jealousy, either.

    You're not a horse person, and she knows she can intimidate you. By your own admission you don't know anything about horses or their behaviors, so right there you're handicapped in trying to deal with this mare.

    She's obviously an alpha type, and since she considers you lower in the herd hierarchy than you, she's showing you who's boss.
         
        02-12-2013, 03:29 PM
      #6
    Foal
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    Originally Posted by Dreamcatcher Arabians    
    Sometimes we just don't "click" with a particular horse. Just like not everyone is best friends with everyone else and sometimes we even have a gut reaction of intense dislike, it can be that way with a horse too.

    I wouldn't worry about it, if the horse is disrespectful and intimidates you to the point you're a prisoner in your own home, it's time for that horse to hit the road.

    I would not concern myself with what happens to the horse once it leaves your property, it's the owner's responsibility and it sounds to me like he's done an excellent job of getting anyone but HIM to take care of that responsibility.
    Thank you. Seems I've had better luck with dogs! Yes, the horse will leave. I can't fault the owner. He's trying to protect his livestock by moving his cows and remaining horse (this mare) from his property which was in close proximity to the local cattle and horse thief (the thief already stole his other horses; the sheriff refuses to do anything--this is the Wild West down here)
         
        02-12-2013, 03:44 PM
      #7
    Super Moderator
    So this is the update on your previous post - obviously didnt end well but best the horse is moved on and you should just forget about it and do the same
    Some horses do pick up on vibes more than others and it can actually stress them out but honestly not worth worrying about now
         

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