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    06-13-2013, 04:19 PM
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Unhappy Why does my horse hate my aunt?

First thing to know about my aunt is that she has always had a fear of horses, but she never acts too scared around them. I know Comet can sense her fear though. Apparently when he first came out to the farm a few years ago he bit her as she tried to walk him. She tells me there was no warning (I know there must have been) and that she didn't do anything. That was where their relationship first went sour. Rather recently I walked Comet near her and when we got within 5 feet of her he leaned so far back he almost sat down. He definitely saw her standing there and agreed to go forward with me, so why did he react this way?

After this year of me working with him we've undoubtedly come a long way, but she still thinks he's dangerous. Now that my uncle has bought another horse that she trusts she is thinking of sending Comet down the road. Personally I think this is a horrible decision but I'm only 17 so my say only goes so far in this. It just seems a shame to send away a horse that I brought from not even letting us catch him to letting me saddle him (previously he was terrified) and get up on him. Plus, I just love the guy! He has never so much as even accidentally hurt me, but she thinks he's basically no good.

How could I help their relationship improve, and why does he "hate" her so much?

*she has never hurt him, so abuse is definitely not the issue here.
     
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    06-13-2013, 04:22 PM
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Is your aunt and uncle's horse? If so and she's afraid of him, they have every right to sell him on to someone else who may be able to enjoy him.

If you like him so well, buy him for yourself.
     
    06-13-2013, 04:35 PM
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Kind of a weird situation he originally was theirs, but they made an agreement with me that he was mine to do whatever I please with. If I wasn't working with him he would have left a long time ago.
My aunt will get rid of him if she really wants to, but she doesn't seem to want to without my approval.
     
    06-13-2013, 04:46 PM
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Ultimately, it's your aunt's decision. You can talk to her all you want about keeping the horse, but if she wants to sell the horse, she will.
     
    06-13-2013, 04:49 PM
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I'm not really trying to convince her not to get rid of him, she told me that she doubts if she actually will. I just want to know why they can't seem to get along.
     
    06-13-2013, 05:28 PM
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OP didn't ask how to convince her aunt to let the horse stay, nor did she apply that's what she wanted to do. :P maybe someone has an idea on the topic at hand?

Horses remember things, its possible the horse associates her with the 'initial' scary things about the farm, or she reminds him of a previously abusive owner. He could just be reacting to her fear as well, he sounds like a horse who needs a strong leader and is insecure without one.
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    06-13-2013, 05:36 PM
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Originally Posted by MacKenzie    

After this year of me working with him we've undoubtedly come a long way, but she still thinks he's dangerous. Now that my uncle has bought another horse that she trusts she is thinking of sending Comet down the road. Personally I think this is a horrible decision but I'm only 17 so my say only goes so far in this. It just seems a shame to send away a horse that I brought from not even letting us catch him to letting me saddle him (previously he was terrified) and get up on him. Plus, I just love the guy! He has never so much as even accidentally hurt me, but she thinks he's basically no good.

It was implied here ^

If your aunt refuses to work with the horse, there isn't too much you can do to change her mind of her fear.
     
    06-13-2013, 05:40 PM
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Thank you for the actual answer! :P
     
    06-13-2013, 05:42 PM
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Originally Posted by alexischristina    
OP didn't ask how to convince her aunt to let the horse stay, nor did she apply that's what she wanted to do. :P maybe someone has an idea on the topic at hand?
Yes, the OP did very much imply that she wanted her aunt to 'not be afraid' of the horse, and stated that she thinks selling the horse on is a bad idea. How could you have read the same thing wetrain and I did, and NOT get that from her post?

The OP personally likes the horse, so wants it to stay. You can't make someone like horses if they've always been afraid of them, and the aunt and the horse in question already have bad history.

How many times have we told people to sell/give away a horse that frightens them, or they just simply don't get along with? Why is this situation any different? For whatever reason one of the owners of the horse doesn't like it and wants it gone, which is their right.
     
    06-13-2013, 05:43 PM
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She doesn't refuse to work with him. I think what's happening is her misunderstanding of him leads her to believe any little move he makes will end with her getting hurt.
     

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