This is why no one is supposed to touch my horses except me and my riding buddy.... - The Horse Forum
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post #1 of 10 Old 10-14-2011, 10:50 AM Thread Starter
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Angry This is why no one is supposed to touch my horses except me and my riding buddy....

Grrrr. I'm mad. Mostly at myslef. But also just in general.

I had to work all day on saturday. Some OLD OLD friends were supposed to be dropping by. I haven't seen them in years and I was gutted to miss them.

I come home and my mum tells me that their young daughters took my horses out for a ride, with the parents leading. I was pretty pissed. They're not kids horses. I argued it out with my mum who said it was all fine and that she and my brother did the tacking up and supervised them. I was still mad but I let it slide.

I've been realllly busy this week and my horses are temporarily off of my land. It's been about all I can do to get hay chucked over the fence and the hosepipe left on a few minutes a day to keep the water topped up.

So today I finally get out to see my horses. My gelding is lame. My gelding is NEVER lame....I run over there and find that one of his belly straps is around his far hind and fastened. The rug has been put on incorrectly and has rubbed when he walks.

I can't believe it. I was promised that all the handling, etc was supervised. My family would NOT make that mistake, so the rug was CLEARLY put on by the guests and NOT checked.

I confronted my mum about this, and of course she feels bad that she didn't check them. She also rightly pointed out that it is my fault that I have not noticed till now. I've been so busy with my chaotic week that I have relied on the help of others to care for my horses and have not made time to check them. THIS WEEK OF ALL WEEKS! Any other week and i'd have known by sunday and fixed it.

I've done my best to fix it up. He looks a lot better already, hopefully no lasting damage has been done, but I still take it seriously.

I feel terrible, but i'm also mad that my mum wasn't more responsible when letting children handle my horses. teh whole thing is just.....ugh.

There's a lesson to be learned here, folks!

Rant over. If you read all of this....thanks!

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post #2 of 10 Old 10-14-2011, 10:55 AM
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I'd be mad too.

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post #3 of 10 Old 10-14-2011, 11:10 AM
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yea i'd be upset as well. Any non horsey person can easily do something wrong. I wouldnt have been ok even with supervision but since you werent there, theres nothign you could have done to avoid it.

Also, it is ok to depend on someone else if your schedule becomes hectic, just make sure that person a) knows what theyre doing and B) know what is ok and is not ok by you
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post #4 of 10 Old 10-14-2011, 11:34 AM
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I think your family already DID a mistake by letting to use your horse(s) and then not checking how it was done. Frankly, it's all the fault of whoever allowed them to do it (not you, of course). It's frustrating for sure - I do hear you.

My horses are mine. Noone is allowed to mess with them or take the decision without asking me first (now, I don't care if my parents do, I'm talking about everyone else). The reason being I don't want to face a suit if someone gets hurt.

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Did your parents pay for the horse or are paying for it. If so maybe they see it as we bought it so maybe we have the right...idk id be mad. Rugs or blankets have rubbed on my previous horse no matter how they were put on. My arab got rubs around her shoulders and where the back straps go. To fix the shoulder one I bought a sleazy...
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Did your parents pay for the horse or are paying for it. If so maybe they see it as we bought it so maybe we have the right...idk id be mad. Rugs or blankets have rubbed on my previous horse no matter how they were put on. My arab got rubs around her shoulders and where the back straps go. To fix the shoulder one I bought a sleazy...
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My mum bought me the horse, but he is mine and I handle upkeep. I'm not saying she didn't have the right, but I'm mad because the situation was poorly handled and if she isn't going to be more careful I wish she wouldn't do it.

I understand about the rubbing, sometimes his shoulders rub. This is different because a strap was put in COMPLETELY the wrong place, causing a proper cut, and giving my horse a significant limp.

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post #7 of 10 Old 10-16-2011, 06:57 AM
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Sorry, but when I am "throwing the hay" I ALWAYS look at how my horses blankets etc are, and give them a quick lookover. You should have caught the incorrect blanketing on the first day. Frankly, as a mom with a daughter who likes to think the horses are "hers", I would remind you that it IS her place you are "doing all the upkeep" at, is it not? And if she did not have this place for you to have them would you even be able to? Could you even afford to have the horses without her?

Sorry but you are making a huge drama over something not all that critical. Look at the big picture.

Seriously-over a rub? Get over it. You have told her how you feel. Move on.

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post #8 of 10 Old 10-16-2011, 07:23 AM
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Sorry, but when I am "throwing the hay" I ALWAYS look at how my horses blankets etc are, and give them a quick lookover. You should have caught the incorrect blanketing on the first day. Frankly, as a mom with a daughter who likes to think the horses are "hers", I would remind you that it IS her place you are "doing all the upkeep" at, is it not? And if she did not have this place for you to have them would you even be able to? Could you even afford to have the horses without her?

Sorry but you are making a huge drama over something not all that critical. Look at the big picture.

Seriously-over a rub? Get over it. You have told her how you feel. Move on.
Harsh enough? She is upset, I believe most people rant on here, why cant she? The point is, whether it was a little rub or a broken leg, the person caring for the horse failed at doing their job.
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Sorry you think I was too harsh. Fact is, that she also failed at her job. She is allowed to rant, and I am allowed to give my opinion. This is a forum, after all.

It is also my opinion, that if you have a blanket on a horse it is your responsibility to make sure it is on correctly, not getting crooked, etc, so that the horse does not get hurt. If, at some point in the last week, she has not had time to eyeball even that much, she is lucky that is all that is wrong. Could be a lot worse. Even on correctly, the blankets can get turned, etc, and horses get tangled. You have a responsibility to keep an eye on them. If you can't-leve the blanket off. JMHO.
PLUS, the horses are not on her land. How does she know, 100% that it was her moms error? Is it possible that someone else has touched her horse?

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post #10 of 10 Old 10-16-2011, 10:16 AM Thread Starter
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I don't think I'm making a big deal of anything really. Just mentioning my bad day.

You are all entitled to your opinion, and in fact I actually agree with you. If you check my op you will see that I do take responsibility. The point of my post was to talk about how I felt about my mistake. I should have gone round the land to find them, but I didn't. It's not like they were right there and I ignored them, though.

So no controversy there, I'm afraid.

The only part of your post I take issue with is about my financial situation. I don't really think it's your business. I AM financially responsible for the horse. Of course while I say he is mine, my mother has every right to handle them. I just wish she would do so more carefully. Yes, I am 100% sure no one else touched them. They are people in site.
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