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    10-05-2011, 10:45 PM
Unhappy Why Is This So Hard?

~sigh~ sorry just need to rant a little bit.

Is it always this hard to buy a horse? This is my first experience actually going out and looking to buy. And I can honestly say it's not turning out the way I hoped.

I go rooting through a TON of ads picking each poor horse apart until there's nothing left. Then on the occassion I see something that catches my eye I email the owner/seller to ask if the horse is still available and if so may I ask a few questions about the horse. And if it's not too much trouble I ask for a few conformation pictures.

After my first initial email I usually get a response that says "Yes he is still available feel free to ask me any questions and I'll answer them the best I can. I'll send you some confo pictures tonight or tomorrow." I then reply along the lines "Thank you for the response. I am looking forward to the pictures." and then I follow with a few questions. Nothing too hard all basic horse questions; Examples- how far along in training, how are they with the vet and farrier, how are the ground manners, ever been trailered, UTD on shots and negative coggins, how they tie and lead, depending on the horse a few other basic questions.

Every time I send an email with questions I NEVER get a response back. Am I scaring sellers off because I want to inquire about their horses training and personality. I may be new to horse shopping but I feel like questions are a HUGE must when inquiring about a horse.
I don't know maybe I'm wrong.

If you were a seller would you be turned off by me if I asked you basic questions about the topics I listed above? Maybe I'm doing something wrong. All I know is I am starting to get really discouraged.
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    10-05-2011, 11:00 PM
When I was selling my gelding, I was actually put off by people who didn't ask questions. I had a few tire kickers and I spent numerous emails explaining about my horse, sending additional pictures and telling them everything they wanted to know. In the end, they made up excuses why they couldn't come out to view him and dropped off the face of the earth.

When I first started looking for a horse, I found a 3 year old Pintaloosa mare. She was $500 when I saw her, I spoke to the seller and made arrangements to come see her 2 days later. The next day, I found that she had re-listed the mare as FREE, so I called again and said I'd be there that day with a trailer. She agreed, we set up a time and when I called a few hours later to confirm... she told me she sold the horse to someone else. The mare was relisted again a few weeks later because the other buyer hadn't come through. It was really disheartening for me.

Chin up. Things happen for a reason and your horse is out there.
    10-05-2011, 11:09 PM
Any decent seller should be prepared to answer questions and provide photos.

Don't worry too much, just means you haven't found the right one yet. The last active buying search I did (for a student) we looked at & rode over 30 before we found one that was a perfect fit.
    10-05-2011, 11:20 PM
Yes, when I was looking for my 1st one I found it to be quite frustrating process. Almost in all cases what I drove to look at (once 2 hours away in WV) was not what I was expecting to see. The funny thing the one I finally got the owner was 100% honest upfront (yearling, small, almost no handling). And that's what I got - her personality and attitude just really touched me. :)
    10-05-2011, 11:31 PM
Don't give up! Maybe you should try making some calls instead of e-mail. When I was horse shopping I felt like I had better luck getting my questions answered if I picked up the phone and called rather than e-mailed.

I would also let you're horsey friends know you're shopping. That's how I found my girl. One of my friends works at a vet clinic. I told him that I was shopping and what I was looking for. He told me he'd keep and eye out, and a few weeks later one of their clients came through with a horse for sale. He helped me get in touch with her owner and it turned out to be a perfect match.

Plus if you find a horse through networking you get the added peace of mind that you know the seller, even of it's indirectly. I know it can be frustrating, but don't give up. Good luck! I hope you find you dream pony soon!
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    10-05-2011, 11:37 PM
Great advice Ink! Calling vs email shows that you are more serious about buying.

Another good networking connection is the farrier.

My new horse kind of fell into my lap. Her owner was off to college, her dad is my mom's regional boss. At a retirement party horses came up as a topic and from there it turned into me buying my first warmblood :)
    10-05-2011, 11:39 PM
I had similar problems. I think some people kind of want to sell, then once someone shows intrest they really think about not having their horse anymore and realize they are not that serious. It would be nice if they did reply and say 'no longer selling' or 'have sold' instead of just leaving you wondering. Some of the other people who don't answer may realize you know what your talking about and figure out thy can't lie/trick/scam you.

Don't get discouraged, the right horse is out there. Good things come in good time.
If it helps any I looked for a year befor I found Bosz. I also went throughout 1000's of ads and contacted about 100 owners. Many never responded or quite responding. A few were deffinate no since the owner was shady. (by this I mean that they would be extremely pushy about me getting the horse. Or I would ask the same question 2x and get 2 different answers) some people only wanted to ship the horse to me non refundable. BE VERY CAREFUL!!!!
I deffinatly don't think you are running them off with your questions.
Hope you find a good horse. Don't rush, the perfect one will come in time.
    10-06-2011, 07:43 PM
I would also get started on calling about the horses you were interested in. Some people don't take emails that seriously. Good luck finding a horse =)
    10-06-2011, 08:37 PM
Well I've finally had some luck! The lady with a horse I have been eyeing for a long time emailed me back with a few pictures and sent me her number. I feel it's too late to call right now as it's around the time when people tend to settle for the night. I'm going to call before work tomorrow and scehdule a day to go see him!

Gorgeous registered paint horse! I have an amazing feeling about him from everything she told me and from the pictures. She was extremely honest with me even pointing out a few of his faults in the email and she has his father on her property. Everything she said about him fits my needs and what I'm looking for in a horse.
    10-06-2011, 11:48 PM
Glad to hear you've gotten some answers. Hope it works out!!!!

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