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post #11 of 23 Old 06-09-2009, 02:41 PM
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I wouldn't worry about it. Whether or not she meant it, it really makes no difference. The horse is your and you love her, what else matters?

Generally speaking, comments that are hurtful are usually said by people that don't feel comfortable with themselves (or in this situation, maybe what she owns). I wouldn't sweat over a comment like that, and because of the situation would take it as a compliment.

Sometimes jealousy also plays a big role in what is said
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post #12 of 23 Old 06-09-2009, 02:47 PM Thread Starter
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Thanks for everyone's comments. They're helping a lot.
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post #13 of 23 Old 06-09-2009, 02:59 PM
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That is just rude. I insult myself and my horses all the time, but that doesn't mean it's okay for others too insult them/me. I'd flat out ask why she feels the need to insult your horse. I'm guessing she will be embarassed if you point it out, an hopefully stop.
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post #14 of 23 Old 06-09-2009, 04:58 PM
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You know I have a friend that rode horses with all through school, even college. She made remarks like that all the time about color or whatever. She has always said stuff like that, not particularly about horses either and we are supposed to be good friends! College roommates even! I don't get it really. But after 10 plus years of knowing each other now she doesn't really keep in touch, go figure. When it comes to horse insults I think I take the cake. My dad bought me my first horse when I was in high school and he brought to where I live and my aunt let me keep it at her barn. My mothers side of the family was against it the whole time but they came around a little. Although, my aunt and her daughter would constantly tell me my horse is doing this and that and she needs to have a red ribbon in her tale because she kicks and stuff. Well turns out she NEVER kicked at all. She complained all the **** time making my horse out to be crazy! Finally I moved her to my old lesson teachers barn and she left me alone and told me I could come back, blah blah blah. Yeah right! Now I have a horse again, I sold the first one to go off to college, and I'm so happy about him but I can't share it with most of my family because they aren't supportive toward me, but they are with anyone else in the family. I think that's totally unfair! Sorry for the long post. Just venting because I feel ya when it comes to criticism:(

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post #15 of 23 Old 06-09-2009, 05:07 PM
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Next time she makes a snarky remark about your horses color you can choose to be polite and say "there are more important things than a horses color" or you can be a but sharp and remind her that her horse is the one that looks like it rolled in poo....

But on a more serious note, I would confront her about it when she make rude comments towards you. Just ask her if there's a reason she's always putting down on your horse.
I guess I am not seeing it as this friend is always putting the OP's horse down. A comment was made and came across as an insult. Rude - perhaps but a preplanned attack - no.

OP - My suggestion (as a BO) would be to approach your buddy and simply let her know she hurt your feelings. Get it out in the open and tell her it may be a subject where you have to agree to disagree and not discuss it.
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post #16 of 23 Old 06-09-2009, 05:29 PM
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Grrr... I hate people like that. I mean, just because a horse is bay doesn't mean it's not pretty! The prettiest horse I've ever seen was a bay, actually.
I take it rather personality when people insult my horse. "Hey, aren't fjords a pony breed? It's awfully fat for a pony." Or "****, look at her nose! Its it broken?"

Grrr....
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post #17 of 23 Old 06-10-2009, 11:51 AM Thread Starter
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Thanks for all comments and support. My friend apologized and we've made up. =] Thanks all! It's all okay now.
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post #18 of 23 Old 06-10-2009, 12:34 PM
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Glad to hear things worked out :)
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post #19 of 23 Old 06-10-2009, 12:40 PM
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when my son started riding, I told him to never badmouth someone elses horse. I told him that a lot of people see horses as extensions of themselves....so that any rude or bad thing said about the horse will make the owner take it very personally.
He's 16 now...hope it sticks...as I know if someone ever badmouthed his horse, he would be extremely upset!

Anyways, glad you made up with your friend!!
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post #20 of 23 Old 06-11-2009, 01:36 PM
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Simple: Both of you go to a show and you kick her ass. Or at least bring home a blue ribbon to brag about. Make sure to mention how the judge loves brown and bay horses (I've seen a judge who only pinned brown and bay horses, but I still got second place in 1 class on an Appaloosa).

Or, if you're nasty like me, just say something like: "Well at least my horse doesn't look like he has **** on his leg."
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