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post #11 of 14 Old 10-15-2012, 05:26 PM
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I too can be pretty spazzy when it comes down to it.

The thing that helps me relax, and in turn helps them relax, is to at least spend a couple minutes doing something relaxing together.

For example: I have a friend who's an equine massage therapist. She came out a month ago and gave Red a little massage treat! (First time I have ever had her out.) She showed me some really useful "yoga" moves I can do with Red and specific areas he had knots that I can work on. So before every single ride, I take 5+ minutes to work on all his stretches and massage his trouble areas (he's got awful knots right in his poll, even I can feel them!). It's become routine for us now and he instantly goes into this eyes-half-closed and lips-wiggling posture when we go through it. Relaxing and calming for me and for him! Makes you forget about all you stressors and just think about the horse.

You could do this with spending some time grooming, if you don't know what stretches to do.

Not only is it good to come and here and vent with us (never a good idea to hold these feelings in!) but it might not be a bad idea to seek professional help occassionally. I did so myself while going through graduate school and spending 4 years apart from my husband. And it really, really helped. I feel no shame in seeking help, and no one ever should! Remember that that is always an option too.
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post #12 of 14 Old 10-16-2012, 12:46 PM
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I too can be pretty spazzy when it comes down to it.

The thing that helps me relax, and in turn helps them relax, is to at least spend a couple minutes doing something relaxing together.

For example: I have a friend who's an equine massage therapist. She came out a month ago and gave Red a little massage treat! (First time I have ever had her out.) She showed me some really useful "yoga" moves I can do with Red and specific areas he had knots that I can work on. So before every single ride, I take 5+ minutes to work on all his stretches and massage his trouble areas (he's got awful knots right in his poll, even I can feel them!). It's become routine for us now and he instantly goes into this eyes-half-closed and lips-wiggling posture when we go through it. Relaxing and calming for me and for him! Makes you forget about all you stressors and just think about the horse.

You could do this with spending some time grooming, if you don't know what stretches to do.

Not only is it good to come and here and vent with us (never a good idea to hold these feelings in!) but it might not be a bad idea to seek professional help occassionally. I did so myself while going through graduate school and spending 4 years apart from my husband. And it really, really helped. I feel no shame in seeking help, and no one ever should! Remember that that is always an option too.
EXCELLENT ADVICE, Beau, both re: some 1:1 therapy BEING veeery helpful AND re: massage time!

In fact, I have really wanted to learn some horse massage for beginners and try it out on my usual lesson horse after our lessons! I think she might remember that while I've no doubt frustrated the heck out if her with my lack of precision riding (she's about as precision as a Ferrari due to her total awareness of/responsiveness to the SLIGHTEST POSITION CHANGES on my part--much more aware than I @ this semi-early point in my retraining), thus I'm constantly looking for ways to "make it up" to her...perhaps some relaxation massage would be just the thing!

KJ; I am SOOO NOT TRYING to hijack your thread! I just found this advice GREAT for YOU and also very useful for me! I hope you understand? Please, carry on! :0)

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EXCELLENT ADVICE, Beau, both re: some 1:1 therapy BEING veeery helpful AND re: massage time!

In fact, I have really wanted to learn some horse massage for beginners and try it out on my usual lesson horse after our lessons! I think she might remember that while I've no doubt frustrated the heck out if her with my lack of precision riding (she's about as precision as a Ferrari due to her total awareness of/responsiveness to the SLIGHTEST POSITION CHANGES on my part--much more aware than I @ this semi-early point in my retraining), thus I'm constantly looking for ways to "make it up" to her...perhaps some relaxation massage would be just the thing!

KJ; I am SOOO NOT TRYING to hijack your thread! I just found this advice GREAT for YOU and also very useful for me! I hope you understand? Please, carry on! :0)
No worries, it is great advice. Actually there is an equine college close to me that offers a two day equine massage course. I would love to go but I have no cash and you need to bring your own horse and I have no trailer :(. Next time I guess.
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post #14 of 14 Old 10-17-2012, 07:12 AM
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The 2 day part is GREAT! The having your own horse part, while understandable, would be tough as would the trailer part.
I think if it was near me, I might literally see about borrowing a horse and trailer or seeing if a friend with two horses would take the course with me...if not, and if I was to pay a friend to do it with their horse alone, they would certainly benefit through their horse getting practice massages all day x 2! ;0)

Could turn into a great way to help out some of the rescue horses which many if us volunteer with, too...I may check into schools around here and see if any have same!

I hope YOU ARE HAVING a better day today as well! :0)

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