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        11-09-2009, 01:00 AM
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    This woman is unbelievable. *long rant*

    I've had it with this lady at my barn. She has no clue what she's doing and she will never admit it. She's impossible to reason with. Furthermore, she doesn't have any of her own equipment so she uses the BO's stuff all the time and never bothers to even clean the tack afterward. She owns a 13 hand pony that her daughter rides, but she also has access to three other horses that she can ride whenever she wants for free. And she treats them like crap.

    This evening, the woman, her cousin, and her two kids go for a trail ride and Queen Idiot is riding Reba (20-something-year-old mare who doesn't belong to her) and she has her 6 year old son on the horse's back behind her. As they're coming back, her daughter's pony bolts and the girl falls off. My friends and I are out in the yard and we asked her several times if she was okay. She was crying, but she said she was okay like ten times. She was more frustrated than hurt. Then Queen Idiot comes barreling down the trail on Reba and hops off to help the girl... and lets go of Reba and lets her run away. With nylon reins flying all over the place.

    We caught her and I took her in the wash rack right away. She and the other three horses were drenched in sweat. Queen Idiot walks by and I tell her that Reba could have gotten caught in the reins and it could have hurt her mouth, especially because nylon doesn't break away. She ignores me and walks away.

    Later, she comes up to me, extremely snippy and defensive and says, "Had I not been more worried about my daughter than the horse, I wouldn't have done that. And I am MORE than capable of cooling Reba down myself and I'll take care of it next time."

    I almost slapped her. YOU KEEP THE HORSE WITH YOU. Reba is so quiet that she would have just stood there.

    She might groom a horse once in a blue moon. She NEVER does anything with them after she rides besides toss them in their stall or paddock. I find horses with old saddle marks out in the pasture all the time. She has no respect or appreciation for anything. She doesn't take care of anything. Reba is getting old and she's about fifty pounds underweight, and she can't afford to waste calories. Queen Idiot rides her into the ground on a regular basis.

    The poor horse has the patience of a saint and has certainly suffered more than her share of fools. She's too forgiving to protest no matter what Queen Idiot does to her. The idiot leaves Reba in the arena unattended and fully tacked all the time. I'm beyond pissed. When you're responsible for someone else's horse, you give it extra TLC. Especially a senior horse.

    It's a difficult situation because Reba's owner is not a horse person and only keeps her for sentimental reasons (I posted about Reba once before, but that was a while ago). She might come out to see her once or twice a year. And she gave Queen Idiot free reign to do whatever she wants with the poor thing. The BO is no help because she knows next to nothing about horses and isn't likely to even care.

    It's wasn't an innocent mistake. She does things like this all the time. How many times do you have to be wrong before you start reevaluating yourself? She sees the rest of us taking proper care of our horses and she still doesn't learn. I'm ready to knock her through the ceiling. She treats horses like toys. Take it out, play with it, then forget about it. If it breaks, she'll just buy another one.

    I'm sorry. I needed to get it all out. I don't know how much more of her I can take.
         
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        11-09-2009, 01:06 AM
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    Yearling
    I wish I could help. That sounds like a very tough situation. Slip a few carrots to Reba from us.
         
        11-09-2009, 01:24 AM
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    Yearling
    It sucks to watch ignorant a-holes abuse things doesn't it!? It sounds like this woman is lucky that you have been biting your tongue up till now. Is there any reason you can't forget that you have manners and start talking to her the way she deserves to be spoken to?

    Tell her that not caring for the horses that she has ridden is very bad behaviour, explain how rude it is to use tack that isn't her's and not clean it. You don't have to be nasty but atleast you have said your piece. Then if she persists in being an ignorant cow, well the gloves can come off!

    I really try to be nice to people and get along with everyone I meet. But there are always exceptions, the people that have no respect for things that deserve utmost respect. These types of people ( and she sounds like one of them ) are fair game as far as I am concerned and always fun to give a good kicking!

    But that's just how I roll, you may be a little more self restrained LOL!
         
        11-09-2009, 01:38 AM
      #4
    Weanling
    She does sound like of a tool.

    That being said...is it your place to say anything to her? Are you just another boarder? Then you have no right to tell her anything....you must go to the BO or BM and tell her, and let her deal with it.
    She probably ignored you, as from her point of view, you have no authority to tell her anything.....again, not saying she is right, but you have to see things from the other side, as hard as that maybe.

    And as far as letting the horse go...I may have done the same thing if my kid fell off a horse and was crying....its a mothers instinct. And if Reba was as quiet as you say....she shouldn't of run off, but just stood quietly even after someone bailed and let the reins go....my horses would have.

    Again, not saying she isn't at fault for being stupid, as clearly she is not the brightest crayon in the box... but if it as huge a problem as you say....then deal with it by going through the right channels, it will be more effective.
         
        11-09-2009, 02:12 AM
      #5
    Showing
    I would probably react the same way as Kiwigirl. If she was genuinely ignorant about the proper way to act around horses or handle horses but was willing to learn, that would be one thing. However, she sounds like a bit of a bitch and more than likely, that is exactly how I would treat her. But that may just be me.

    Sorry, I'm not being much help, am I?
         
        11-09-2009, 02:35 AM
      #6
    Yearling
    Maverick's advice is very sensible and reasonable. Reasonable people are no fun when when you feel frustrated and at the end of your tether, invariably though they are worth listening to. I am blessed with a husband who is always reasonable and able to see the other persons side, he's a real killjoy! LOL
         
        11-09-2009, 05:16 AM
      #7
    Yearling
    Personally, when someone does something stupid like that, I try to talk to them calmly. If they don't accept my opinion I leave.
    But after it happens continuously, I get quite angry and somewhat bitchy. Just keep it calm next time it happens, but after that no more miss nice girl.
    Responsible horse people don't let things happen. They see these things happening and they try their **** hardest to stop it.
    I can tell by your posts, you care about horses, so just try being calm before you get stern.
         
        11-09-2009, 08:24 AM
      #8
    Foal
    I'm with maverick, when it comes to the family the horses are on their own. Granted I'll try and make sure they are safe, but I wouldn't have been worried about the horses reins at the time if my kid had fell off.
    Not many people like it when someone just bust in and tell them they are doing something wrong especially if not asked. If she has free rein with the horse I would bite my tongue unless she's doing something that would kill the horse, as far as the BO, I might casually mention the tack issue. To be honest it's not your horse or tack, so its not really your business. If the BO don't know about the tack let her know, but if she doesn't care leave it alone.
         
        11-09-2009, 10:14 AM
      #9
    Weanling
    Quote:
    Originally Posted by Maverick101    
    She does sound like of a tool.

    That being said...is it your place to say anything to her? Are you just another boarder? Then you have no right to tell her anything....you must go to the BO or BM and tell her, and let her deal with it.
    She probably ignored you, as from her point of view, you have no authority to tell her anything.....again, not saying she is right, but you have to see things from the other side, as hard as that maybe.

    And as far as letting the horse go...I may have done the same thing if my kid fell off a horse and was crying....its a mothers instinct. And if Reba was as quiet as you say....she shouldn't of run off, but just stood quietly even after someone bailed and let the reins go....my horses would have.

    Again, not saying she isn't at fault for being stupid, as clearly she is not the brightest crayon in the box... but if it as huge a problem as you say....then deal with it by going through the right channels, it will be more effective.
    Well said!
         
        11-09-2009, 11:14 AM
      #10
    Green Broke
    Maverick has a great point... But I'm the kind of person that would probably get in a fistfight with that lady ;)

    If I was in your sitchuation I would try to tell her nicely that she's hurting that horses health, if she came back with a bitchy comment I would have to run away to keep myself from punching her. Haha, I hope you find a way to handle this better then how I would ;)
         

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