Now I can't tell if I'm just overreacting, or if I actually have a reason to be concerned.
I have agreed to let someone on my equestrian team use Ruger since her horse is very green. Ruger is inexperienced in the show pen, but he is more than ready and more than capable of doing all the events. The problem isn't him. The problem is the girl I am letting ride him.
She just doesn't listen to anything I try and tell her. Ruger's biggest challenge is remaining balanced; But she can't seem to find the way to use her body. When I try and tell her something, she just says "Yeah I know, okay." and then ignores what I told her. She lets him just fling his body everywhere, overbend or counter bend without correction, doesn't really use her legs, has pretty heavy hands...It would be fine if this was a forgiving horse and she would listen, but she just won't. Towards the end I finally just said get off the horse and let me ride him because it was painful. I've spent so long getting him to lope perfect circles, change leads, turn in a balanced manner, serpentine, counter canter and counter arc, he spins/sidepasses/turns on the forehand, all that. I can lope a western eq. Pattern on him on a very loose rein. He has an amazingly smooth handle on the barrel pattern.
I'm a little concerned about this lease now. It was all fine at first but now it's just falling apart. It's been two weeks. We want to start taking a group lesson with my trainer but there's four of us and I'm wondering if that's going to be enough one-on-one time with her and Ruger to get on the same page or if she's even going to listen. Two of us have been showing for a long time (Me and one other girl) and then the other two are very inexperienced.
Do you guys think I should just give this time? I have been letting her come out and ride when I go but if she won't listen to me I don't want Ruger regressing. Do you think it might be a good idea to just limit her on him to lessons? I'm still riding him often but I don't want to be fixing every little thing. He's a very sensitive horse. I'm worried I made the wrong decision agreeing to let her use him...