I've read everyone's replies a couple of times. Thank you all again.
It's really great that you're honest with yourself about the amount of time you can spend with the horse. This is so important!
This is what I did this week. I sat down and thought about how much I time not just that I could give, but honestly, how much did I want to give. I want a horse for trail riding and overall just pleasure. I dream of walking out my back door and having a horse or two there. I could get in a quick ride when I have the chance. Our property opens up to trails so I could ride out from my property. I also wanted to have a round pen so I could do some work on other things. But the thought of riding 30 minutes every single time I want to see the horse just was unappealing. When winter comes, I will only be able to go on weekends since I'm not home until 6:30. So that means if I want to go 2x a week, I'm giving up my weekend. Which is fine for me, but how fair is that to my husband. We can never plan anything or do anything because I'll be at the barn.
Where I used to live was perfect. I had to pass the barn on my way home from work and they had a huge indoor arena. Being dark outside meant nothing. I could pop in on my way home and get some horsey time. This barn is totally different.
Since you can't lease him from his owner, maybe you should buy him and share board (semi lease) him yourself.
I wondered about this but I thought what if I can't find someone to half lease and also is that something I could even do if I board? Meaning would the person who leases pay me or pay the barn owner? Would a barn owner care if I did that? If I could find someone to semi-lease before I bought him, I'd consider it. But I don't know much about semi-leases if they are something that can work out well or get hairy. Nobody at my barn leases or semi-leases so I would have to talk to her about that.
As to having a horse on your property, you may have to give up lessons unless you have a trailer to haul in or can find someone to come to you. You'd also need riding space - especially if you're taking lessons. Do you feel confident enough to go without lessons? I've known more than one person who has ended up bringing a horse home then basically gave up riding because of a lack of arena or lack of confidence to ride alone.
All good points! We definitely have the space here and our property leads to trails. The house itself needed a ton of work and that is why I wanted to finish up the house remodeling before thinking of getting the horse part set up. But as you mentioned I'd need a trailer along with the other things.
What I want to do ultimately is have my horse home during extreme weather (summer when it's too hot and winter when it's cold, icy, dark outside) and then board him during nicer months. There are a couple of part time boarders at the barn who do this. This way it's kind of the best of both worlds. They keep their horses home during winter and board them from spring until fall.
So I figured I'd keep my horse home from December to March maybe and then during July/August if it's too hot to ride. Winter concerns me most because of the short daylight hours. I feel like I'd get so much more out of the horse owning experience if I come home from work and I'm able to walk out my back door and see my horse.
Great points about the social experience of boarding. I don't want to give up the socializing for me and the horse, the lessons, access to the awesome trails the barn has and just the overall experience. I know that so much of the riding ability and confidence comes from other people.
Since I only trail ride, I was hoping to cut my lessons down to maybe once a month by next year.
So while now I'd be paying for weekly lessons as well as all year boarding, I'm thining if I bought a horse next year, I'd only having monthly lessons and part time boarding.
That's my plans anyway.
Dancingarabian, your schedule is nuttier than mine! OMG.