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post #21 of 33 Old 12-11-2011, 03:40 PM
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I'd give the wife a chance. if hubby comes along just make some excuse not to go. if it happens a few times she might get the idea. You said that everyone else in the area is antisocial. Are they antisocial or just quiet people keeping their heads down and maintaining a low profile. Talk to a few of them. the antisocial ones will completely blow you off, but if you mention that your looking an enjoyable relaxing trail ride and don't like to ride alone for safety reasons the quiet ones may just perk up at the thought.
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post #22 of 33 Old 12-11-2011, 04:54 PM
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Tell them both off, since he OBVIOUSLY knows NOTHING at all.
Firstly, everything he said was wrong. Any horse person would know that. Secondly, even if you were ruining a 'perfectly good horse' with your 'horrible riding', if you don't want the 'help' and say so clearly then it's none of his business. They can shut up and enjoy the ride, or there won't be any more riding, because if they won't give up after you've made everything clear, they're not people that need to be kept around. There's no reason for you to keep riding with them if all they do is make the ride miserable with ignorance and the inability to mind their own beeswax.
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post #23 of 33 Old 12-11-2011, 05:06 PM
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I would have told him that his way of riding is not the only way and yours is obviously not ruining your horse considering your horse is still awesome after youve been riding him for quite some time (i assume). Everyone around here rides western and i ride english, so nobody can really tell me how to ride my horse haha . I hate it when somebody thinks their method is the only right method. I just tell them straight up and prove that they know nothing. i love the looks on people's faces when I do that. ;)
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post #24 of 33 Old 12-12-2011, 12:34 AM Thread Starter
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Thanks for everyone's input. I haven't decided if I want to give the wife another chance or not.

I don't want to say too much since I don't know them that well, but the wife and the husband don't strike me as being that different from each other and have the same sort of ideas... just that she seems to mind her own business and he doesn't.
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post #25 of 33 Old 12-12-2011, 12:48 AM
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Well, just remember first and foremost that this is YOUR time and it's YOUR PLEASURE that they're wasting. You owe them nothing, not even civility after all his nonsense.

I wonder too, if the 'antisocial' folks are just that way because you're riding with those 2? Maybe they'd be more friendly if you were by yourself. I know I wouldn't be very friendly if he showed up on a ride with me, I'd pretty much freeze out anyone with him too.
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post #26 of 33 Old 12-12-2011, 01:10 AM Thread Starter
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Nah, the other folks were antisocial before I ever met these two. The only other person I managed to hunt up to ride with was a guy who promised he'd call to set up another ride, didn't, and then cut me dead when I drove past him a week later. But he had no reason to associate me with the husband and wife.

I don't think the husband and wife are known for being unbearable --- they seem to have a lot of friends and are well-known in the community.

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post #27 of 33 Old 12-12-2011, 12:20 PM
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Usually people who do that think that you dont know anything and they try to force their ideas on you even though they know nothing. they do it to enforce dominance i think. they try to "be on top". Kind of a primitive way of saying it, but it seems true. You have to show them that you actually do know more (shouldnt be hard because he seems to know nothing). Anything he says about your riding, tell him why you do it and why it works and eventually he will shut his mouth. If something he says is wrong, correct him and tell him why it is wrong. If you want to ride with them again, trying this would probably help. But he doesnt seem to be worth the trouble, so I would just find someone else. You could give the wife a chance by herself, and if that doesnt work out, forget it.

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post #28 of 33 Old 12-12-2011, 01:13 PM
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I can see that this is tought decision for you, bc I, personally won't ride alone. I guess you could see if just the wife will ride with you. It seems as if every hobby or profession has these folks that just HAVE to smother you with their own version of "control freak." The only person who has authority to tell you how to ride is the riding instructor that you are paying.
Actually, the backing up after a halt is much more common with driving horses. Otherwise it's a PERSONAL PREFERENCE. I certainly wouldn't force it on anyone.
Also, our TWH, "Merry Boy's Hart", (1984-2008, RIP) could backpedal for 1/4 mile if he was excited!! It certainly defeats the purpose of control. Your under control horse should halt, square off and stand as if ground tied until he ask for the next move--not automatically back a few steps. Backing after a halt reminds me of little stick-shift sports cars that stop for a light on a slope, and you watch them slip backwards as the driver shifts gears.
If we rode together it might be a subject of general discussion with us bc DH and I like to chit chat when we trail ride. =D
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post #29 of 33 Old 12-12-2011, 01:30 PM
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I think you should ride with them again. But right down all the stuff you know he is gonna say, and then come up with funny smart a@# answers ahead of time and memorize them. SOunds like it could be loads of fun.
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post #30 of 33 Old 12-12-2011, 01:39 PM Thread Starter
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@ hisangelonly: I don't think it's that he thought I was ignorant --- I think he felt ignorant and got upset about it. He and his wife seem not to know basic riding terms --- among other things, they were calling a turn on the forehand a turn on the haunches, and vice versa. After I in a puzzled way asked them about it, they suddenly switched and started referring to them correctly, acting as though they knew it all along. This has happened with other things.

Also, suddenly they're training reining spins to their horses, claiming they always have trained reining spins, and claiming their horses know rollbacks but not demonstrating.

@ Corporal: Actually, my reining/cutting teacher has me back every time we stop... Seems to be something reiners/cutters do in this area.

@ Joe4d: I don't want to get involved with this, and I think it'll turn unpleasant pretty fast.
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