It was determines that the saddle had an appropraite fit, but she thought the bit was too harsh. At the time I was feeding her 14% nugget and have since dropped her to 12% and hay. She was a little under weight when we got her. I did check with the vet on what to feed her and how much. She is turned out. At this time we only have a small barn for her to get in out of the weather. I do respect your opinion and While I love my trainer as my riding instructor. I do see were your coming from. I would have loved to have seen what would have happened had she have just gotten on, but as a mother I could also understand her reasons for not.
We have been talking about it and have decided that if we can't sell her we will wait until we can afford to send her for retraining. But because she seems to have an aversion to men I really want a man to retrain her. This is technically my second horse. My first was a 2yr old gelding that my hubby bought me right after we married, but we had a guy train him and he was amazing and my Sunny was so easy to handle. Had to sell him due to pregnancy and life and no ride time. So we think that we will see if he might take on Molly. My only issue now is $$, I spent my alotment on her not thinking that I would need to train her.
My husband has ridden on and off his whole life so if her could ride her for a while until the rest of us aren't so green we could keep her and use her. But he thinks that a trainer needs to deal with her first.