I grew up saying mail-person, business-person etc. Went to too many NOW rallies to stop now
I can't see the difference between a horse-person and a horse-man, but I understand your logic Kevin.
To me it all comes down to horsemanship. Horsemanship is the pursuit of knowledge about horses. Some people take a lifetime to learn it others with more natural gifts can be proficient in a shorter time. The trick is, to never stop taking in that knowledge. Never think you know it all. There's always some young filly or colt who can teach you something new. Advances are always being made in the care of horses in both medical and behaviour fields.
Its not just the riding. I've seen 15 year olds who could out ride any lifelong cowboy. Maybe it would be better to ask, are you a cowboy or a horseman?
I am in no way a cowboy/girl. I grew up on a ranch/farm, been around cattle since I was born. No way do I want to be around them as an adult.
I do like to think of myself as a horsewoman (although I would never call myself one). One that doesn't know everything but plans on spending her life pursuing that knowledge.