Now that I am teaching actively as a business, I am seeing the whole other side to this whole thing. It really does take a lot of gusto for someone to get in front of some riders and start teaching. I wake up in a cold sweat from bad dreams about causing someone issues with their horse or not choosing the right exercises and what have you. My first few months I though I was going to die from anxiety!! But now I'm starting to trust myself a bit more and my students being happy is a great reminder too, especially when I start to doubt myself.
I like watching lessons and thinking "What would I do with that horse and rider" and seeing what the coach does do, and what the outcome is. I also really like watching lessons of my own students with my coach and that awesome moment when she picks an exercise we've done before, or chooses to do a new movement and I've already gone through the basics with that student and she is ready to ride through it. And conversely, when she picks up on something that I have not noticed, or overlooked and not corrected enough, and the change in the horse and rider with that small correction.
My longest student who came to me with a horse that would bolt when she put her leg on and who was a nervous bit chomper, calmly went through a baby flying changes exercise last week. I think the both of us were cheering and the horse thought we had lost our marbles being so excited that he did a change.
But, I have lost a few on the way. To me, I'm not offended, it does not reflect on the rider or the horse, just that the chemistry between all 3 did not work out. In the future, should any of them want to lesson with me, I would not have a grudge, nor if they rode with anyone else.
I myself have ridden and not ridden with so many people, and am friendly with them, that I know it is a fact of life that riders move on.
We have all, however, had our share of bad instructors!! Most instructors that I've moved on from are not bad, and were very good and valuable at the time. One in particular was actually, very, very bad. Mean to the horses and meaner to her students... I am so glad to be riding with the coach I am with now. Such a well of knowledge (it really is endless), and pushes everyone at the right speed. If I have to ride something twice, I get the look or a "you can ride that better". And we always end up laughing about something - usually baby horse antics :P
They say money doesn't buy happiness -- well happiness doesn't buy horses!