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post #11 of 20 Old 09-23-2013, 07:17 PM Thread Starter
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Gossalyn, this is so helpful--thank you! Stupid question: would they be offended if they spotted me on a schooling show circuit next year with another trainer?
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post #12 of 20 Old 09-24-2013, 02:36 PM
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I totally feel your pain. I've tried to leave my barn twice now and chickened out both times because my trainer is very intimidating. :(
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post #13 of 20 Old 09-24-2013, 05:10 PM
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Gossalyn, this is so helpful--thank you! Stupid question: would they be offended if they spotted me on a schooling show circuit next year with another trainer?
I think if you're honest w/ them, and make it about finances.. there's no way they could be offended by that. If it were my people I'd probably say something like "I love riding here, but it's really hard for me to afford.. I get that you are top notch and really good at what you do - but I need to downgrade and find a cheaper way. If I can get my basics down a bit, maybe in a year or so if I'm making a little more, I'd love to come back." The could always offer you a way to afford it. (then it becomes a question of is it money OR the social aspect?)

If you run into them or see them at a show - I would try and say hi and see how they are just to break any tension 'not talking' might cause. Light and casual. From a business perspective, they should want to keep good relationships with you too. It's easy to run the other way, but facing your fears and keeping communication open is probably better.

Even though to us clients, this is a socially awkward experience, from what I've seen barn people deal w/ these types of things all the time. Not just students - My current trainer used to work under another lady at the same facility we're at. My trainer plays it off like it's not weird at all (even though I'm sure it's a little weird!). I remember how awkward I was about quitting piano lessons (I went to another instructor) and the guy sensed I felt bad about it and basically said 'it's cool, people come and go, don't feel bad. If you ever need anything or want blah blah blah... always feel free to call)

Basically - I think it's generally more routine for these businesses to gain and loose clients. And it's generally in their best interest to say they are sorry to see you go & accept it graciously.. in case you ever need anything in the future.
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I hope I am not wrong, I don't think I am. :) but if for some reason they at all give you any attitude, then they are just wrong IMO..
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post #15 of 20 Old 09-24-2013, 05:43 PM
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I agree with what everyone has said. It's no big deal. They run a business, and clients come and go all the time. The bottom line is that there is another facility that will better suit your purposes. This, they will undoubtedly understand.

And no, I don't think it'd be weird to see them. Based on what you've said though, you probably wouldn't see them at anything less than a rated show.
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post #16 of 20 Old 09-25-2013, 07:21 PM Thread Starter
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You all rock. I just sent the email (pretty much copying what was said here--thank you)...will let you know how it goes.

And good point on the rated shows!
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post #17 of 20 Old 09-25-2013, 08:47 PM
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Just tell her the truth! Give the assistant trainer a chance to make you an offer before you leave. Just end it all on good terms, maybe you can take the occasional lesson on their schoolmaster while you continue your lease? There are lots of options, but just stay positive, happy, and honest :)

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let us know how it went!
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post #19 of 20 Old 10-01-2013, 01:29 PM
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Looking forward to hearing about your transition <3
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post #20 of 20 Old 10-01-2013, 01:38 PM
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THIS is why everyone should take the time to register at LEAST what country you live in. I can't tell if you live in Malta, or some country in South America, or Israel, or Australia.
IF you live in the US, you can simply say that we are in the middle of a Depression and I cannot afford you as an excellent trainer any longer. Period. This a business transaction, like SR said.

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