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    06-28-2013, 10:17 PM
  #1
Yearling
To Go or Not To Go Back

So we are going to go back to last year, this time. I had hired a new coach to train me and my horse to event. She was by far the best trainer I have had so far, so lets call her, hmm, Dora. Dora seemed like an excellent coach, and trainer, with very sound dressage methods. I liked Dora a lot. I actually got along with her, understood what the heck a half halt was (previous trainers never explained what it was even after I asked a billion times), and most of all was a very soft handed person. She took me and my horse though a pre-beginner eventing derby about 2 months later. The video is on youtube under HesUltimatelyFine. I personally believe it is a great start for a horse who would rush jumps, pull on the reins constantly, and get very exciteable.

Here comes the negative of the situation:
1) Dora taught me how to lunge more effective, with having the horse saddled and bridled. One lesson after she was done showing me how to lunge him, and was lecturing me on something, he turned his head towards her, and VERY gently touched his nose to her arm.. She turned and smacked him with the line in the face, and yelled at me that he needs to learn respect. All he was doing was looking what Dora was doing, but got hit for it. He showed no aggression, no disrespect, just curiousity.
2) After the eventing derby, I texted her about when my next lesson would be. No response. But with this handy dandy Iphone, it showed that Dora HAD seen my message. Soon I turned to Facebook to ask her about a VERY dangerous situation I was having, and again, no response, even though she seen the message. I sent her a few more, with the same result each time. Fast forward a month, and I find out she moved from Michigan (where I live) to Florida. No warning at all. This just baffles me, as a paying "customer", why she wouldn't even mention that she was leaving.

Now a year later she is back in Michigan. I could get her back as my trainer. The training helped my horse, but should I even reopen this whole thing?
     
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    06-28-2013, 10:21 PM
  #2
Yearling
She was not out of like when he put his nose on her. I probably would have done something less aggressive, flicked him in the nose or something but she was not out of line.

If you liked her instruction go back. Some customers don't really understand that not all trainers want a personal relationship with their clients. You might ask her what was up with her moving and not saying anything but it really is none of your business. True, her PR needs some work.

You want her services or you don't is the bottom line.
     
    06-28-2013, 10:33 PM
  #3
Yearling
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Originally Posted by palogal    
She was not out of like when he put his nose on her. I probably would have done something less aggressive, flicked him in the nose or something but she was not out of line.

If you liked her instruction go back. Some customers don't really understand that not all trainers want a personal relationship with their clients. You might ask her what was up with her moving and not saying anything but it really is none of your business. True, her PR needs some work.

You want her services or you don't is the bottom line.
At most, it was his whiskers touching her. And I forgot a key detail.

After the second lesson, she said my saddle makes me lean too far forward, so she advised me to get a new one, with a bridle. On top of that, certain show clothes, etc etc. She suggested a saddle, which we went ahead and bought. All in all, we spent $2000. Dora said that "she would only suggest new tack if it really would help" but is having a family drop $2000 and then saying adios really fair and right?
     
    06-28-2013, 10:36 PM
  #4
Banned
I thought in your other thread you said you were never ever going to a trainer again because 'it broke the bond' between you and your horse????
     
    06-28-2013, 10:45 PM
  #5
Yearling
OP, you sound as if you've already made up your mind by your posts to not go back. Guess I don't see why you are even asking :)
     
    06-28-2013, 10:47 PM
  #6
Yearling
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Originally Posted by DimSum    
OP, you sound as if you've already made up your mind by your posts to not go back. Guess I don't see why you are even asking :)
I'm just trying to figure out if i'm being irrational or not
     
    06-28-2013, 10:50 PM
  #7
Yearling
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Originally Posted by Muppetgirl    
I thought in your other thread you said you were never ever going to a trainer again because 'it broke the bond' between you and your horse????
MOST of them do. And if you didn't read that other thread, I said I was stopping it THERE to get rid of all of the arguing/blahblahblahbullcrap, so please, for my sake, don't bring it up here since I don't want to loose my noodle
     
    06-28-2013, 10:56 PM
  #8
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I wouldn't go back because of principle. I can understand her maybe not wanting a warm and cozy relationship with her students, but not giving notice is very unprofessional. Especially when you can communicate so easily by email and facebook. Not something I can overlook, but I'm old and cranky!
     
    06-28-2013, 10:59 PM
  #9
Yearling
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Originally Posted by gigem88    
I wouldn't go back because of principle. I can understand her maybe not wanting a warm and cozy relationship with her students, but not giving notice is very unprofessional. Especially when you can communicate so easily by email and facebook. Not something I can overlook, but I'm old and cranky!
That's what I was thinking.. Even just a small notice saying "I'm relocating" would of been good enough for me
     
    06-28-2013, 11:04 PM
  #10
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Originally Posted by KylieHuitema    
MOST of them do. And if you didn't read that other thread, I said I was stopping it THERE to get rid of all of the arguing/blahblahblahbullcrap, so please, for my sake, don't bring it up here since I don't want to loose my noodle
Ok, well hold onto your noodle and I did read the other thread.........I just don't understand why you vehemently right off trainers in one thread then start another thread about getting/revisiting a trainer.......why the change of heart?
     

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