Originally Posted by KylieHuitema
At most, it was his whiskers touching her. And I forgot a key detail.
After the second lesson, she said my saddle makes me lean too far forward, so she advised me to get a new one, with a bridle. On top of that, certain show clothes, etc etc. She suggested a saddle, which we went ahead and bought. All in all, we spent $2000. Dora said that "she would only suggest new tack if it really would help" but is having a family drop $2000 and then saying adios really fair and right?
This is fairly normal with some trainers & show coaches... I have a friend who's college show team handed her a list of all the appropriate attire they wanted her to have. I'm not talking just helmet, boots, saddle, etc. They were specific helmets (Charles Owen, etc.), jacket color - so on. Another friend of mine joined a higher level show team where the coach requires all her HUS girls to have black show jackets. No it's not unreasonable for coaches & trainers to ask for those things. Especially when it's something you really
want to get into (like a show team) or a really good trainer. Having you purchase a new saddle doesn't seem unreasonable to me at ALL.
If the saddle placed you in an incorrect or potentially unsafe position - I'd WANT my trainer to tell me that. My trainer didn't require me to purchase a Dressage saddle when I started lessons with her, but I did anyway. Why learn something but not have the proper equipment?
The barn I'm boarding at now had a BM previous to the current one who constantly changed her mind about things. Barn was open to public board, then it was private, lesson program was huge, then it was small. People still went back to her because they adored her & their kids did too. She decides to up & move state? Not sure if she forewarned everyone, but closes down her entire lesson program. To end up NOT staying out there (I'm not even sure if she went) to pick up again then move out of state AGAIN. Coaches & trainers are people too. My trainer loves me to death & I know there's been times she's read my text messages then forgotten to reply. She rides 8+ horses a day, teaches who knows how many lessons, and has a baby to raise. I expect to get ignored every now & then.