Omg so many great ideas! I see I need to be more clear.
Since day one she has been on the leadline or lungeline. I do let her off the walking the horse. I have played so many games...Simon says, red light/ green light, spoon and egg, magazines under her arms to keep elbows in. Carrying balls and placing them in buckets, etc. She is very trusting while playing games and will do anything I ask without the reins.
She can be a bit on the nervous side but for the most part I think she spaces out. She will look at the other horses grazing while we are playing a game. I change up games a lot to keep her interested.
I have her in an English saddle. Tucker had a French link bit. He does neck rein but I want to teach English.
I also have used a grab strap and make her hold that. Sigh.....
I will shorten the reins and see if that works. I like the knot idea.
I like all the suggestions made. I will try the marbles and candy move.
I don't think mom would approve me putting the bit in her mouth but that comment gave me a chuckle.
Today I actually had a more "serious" conversation with her. It didn't help.
I will get a rope halter with rings and get rope reins. I'm desperate.
She's been riding weekly since May. Shouldn't all these tactics have worked by now?