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post #11 of 54 Old 07-08-2013, 02:05 AM
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You need to talk to your parents.
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post #12 of 54 Old 07-08-2013, 02:09 AM
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Originally Posted by Bagheera View Post
. I think it's time to start looking around.
Feed stores & vet's offices are good places to start
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post #13 of 54 Old 07-08-2013, 04:19 PM
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First of all as long as lessons are not fun anymore (and by that I mean enjoyable while still can be hard work) then it's time to look for a different trainer. If other trainers are expensive you are much better to go with fewer lessons while you learn and enjoy.

You can't do much here, because the person will unlike to change her attitude and teaching approach. Just ask around, try to find someone else.

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post #14 of 54 Old 07-08-2013, 04:26 PM
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I don't know how old you are but I'm thinking you're under 20yo.
First, YOU are the customer and don't need to be paying for insults. There are PLENTY of good teachers out there who would be happy to be nice to you while you learn.
Second, if you STAY with this one, be warned that there are bad boyfriends and bad girlfriends who mistreat the one they are with only as long as that person lets it happen.
You are letting this person treat you like this.
When I taught riding I didn't treat my customers like this. Even when I was pushing a student through a problem, I didn't believe in berating.
George Morris doesn't abuse people when he coaches, and he's got the years and the name to justify it.

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post #15 of 54 Old 07-08-2013, 04:33 PM
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If her parents are paying the bills I'm thinking teenager.
You really need to tell your parents what's going on and come up with a solution.
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post #16 of 54 Old 07-08-2013, 04:39 PM
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Originally Posted by 6gun Kid View Post
you get what you pay for. and close and cheap is getting you, your horse, and your family insulted. I don't care who or how much I pay someone to train, nobody would insult my child, period!
I don't care who or how much I pay someone to train, nobody would insult my parents, period!
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post #17 of 54 Old 07-08-2013, 04:41 PM
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I'm surprised if she's really insulting your parents as well, that they are still having you take lessons from the lady. She sounds like a horrible trainer, and really shouldn't be teaching people. I would ask around, look for references for a different trainer, sometimes you can get good for cheaper, but in this case, I think spending a little more and having a good trainer who actually helps you would be well worth it. I'm sorry you are going through this, but its way past time to leave.
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post #18 of 54 Old 07-08-2013, 04:42 PM
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.... and your parents allow this?? *sad*
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post #19 of 54 Old 07-08-2013, 04:44 PM
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OMG!! You (or your parents) are PAYING someone to yell at you and belittle you!!!!!
Heck, come over to my house, I'll do it for half of what you're currently being charged.

You are the consumer - period. If you don't like the service you are getting, shop for another. It doesn't matter if the person schooled Sleipnir himself! There is no excuse for bad behavior. She may even be bullying you in hopes that you WILL leave; the fact that you've stayed around over a year just sends the message that it's ok to treat you like that. Stop reinforcing her bad behavior and move on to happier grounds. There are TONS of qualified people out there who are most likely a much better fit than this barn witch!
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post #20 of 54 Old 07-08-2013, 04:45 PM
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I went through the same thing with my past trainer. He was a great guy when I was off the horse (mainly to schmooze me to keep coming back for more), but when I was riding my horse he treated me like utter crap. Then would tell me, "You haven't spent enough money with me yet for me to give you the whole picture and pieces of the puzzle", well in any disapline, you need all the pieces to get the job done correctly. I took the abuse for a little bit, thinking maybe I was just in a learning curve, and wasn't understanding all the material that was being flung my way..., but, it just kept getting worse.

The best advice I could give you is to leave. Since my ordeal I've actually put my reining equipment and dreams up for a little while, because the whole situation really 'soured' me for lack of a better term. You need to enjoy what you and your horse are trying to accomplish. If you aren't then it's just not a good situation all around for you and your horse, and you are just encouraging your trainer to stay the same by continuing to go and pay.
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