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post #21 of 54 Old 07-08-2013, 03:54 PM
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So, if I'm reading this correctly-the trainer is the barn owner? But you own your own horse? Is taking lessons required to board there? Can you just ride your horse on your own for awhile and maybe take a break from taking lessons for awhile? Or maybe you don't go out trail riding? I know I wouldn't pay anybody to treat me like that.
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post #22 of 54 Old 07-08-2013, 04:03 PM
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Wow, thats terrible.

Are you allowed to have other trainers come and train you, rather than have the BO/trainer give lessons?

If not, then I would leave, and tell her why. Don't be walking around the bush for this one, tell her exactly why you're leaving. Or you could confront her about her yelling and saying that your a bad rider, ask her if she can stop and if she doesn't then leave.

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post #23 of 54 Old 07-10-2013, 11:03 PM
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There's a trainer who always yells and belittles students at my barn. I took lessons with her for awhile because I really wanted to learn to jump. The only fun lessons I had were a) when I didn't fall off because her horse bucked me off and b) when I was taking a group lesson with this other kid who, while sweet, was a worse rider than me and she would yell at him the whole time instead of me. Whenever he was gone, I was the one who got yelled at. Finally I got mad enough I told her flat out what I thought about her and her teaching and now no one else at the barn will let me ride their horse, I'm totally ignored by half the barn and she still tells me I'm abusive in front of her students (to make herself sound smart I would assume...). She knows she can't tell a horses face from it's butt and when I called her out on it, she made my life miserable but instead of staying miserable I found a new trainer and now my horse behaves better than hers ever did and I'm a little bit happy about that.... I feel like I won that battle and we both know it. She leaves me alone now. At least she doesn't bully me anymore :)
Just don't let your trainer treat you that way. There is no reason for yelling and bullying simply because someone doesn't understand something all the way.
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post #24 of 54 Old 07-11-2013, 05:35 PM
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Originally Posted by Corporal View Post
George Morris doesn't abuse people when he coaches, and he's got the years and the name to justify it.
You must not know George. He has mellowed in recent years, but George is absolutely known for insulting and berating riders.
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post #25 of 54 Old 07-11-2013, 05:37 PM
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The riders he berates are looking for National titles. The OP is a beginner and doesn't deserve to be belittled by a lesser trainer than George.
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post #26 of 54 Old 07-19-2013, 09:44 PM
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Yeah but George rips you down then rebuilds you again. I did a clinic with him and it was so hard. He told me that I was too much of a "fancy" rider but we worked it out!
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post #27 of 54 Old 07-19-2013, 10:17 PM
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Originally Posted by LoveIsTheAnswer View Post
She insults me, she insults my horse, parents, she says "you're not a good rider, so you should stop wasting my time." I understand that my position is bad and stuff, but when I first started with her, I told her "In the lessons I took with my previous instructor she usually had me do courses around 2'3" or lower." Then she stuck me in a group with four other people and made me jump a gymnastic (with three jumps going down a hill, something I have no experience doing) that was I don't know maybe 3'5". I really don't know, but it was maybe quadruple the size I've ever done. Again, she told me that I'm a horrible rider and to stop wasting her time. I was on a thb x arabian. At the end of almost each lessons she always screams at me and my parents. After a year or so when I gotten better, someone was selling a horse and I was in love with her. We tried her out and she was really good. So, I told my instructor and she told me parents if we buy the horse "we need to get off her property or she will throw us off." Later on, I bought a 15hh qh which she hated. She told me things like "this isn't a horse, she has no chance of getting over 18" and is a waste of time. She's horrible, don't buy her." I loved her though, so my parents bought her. I'm scared of her and I know she wants to help me, but none of us really like her. No one at my barn does and she's lost alot of clients. She won't let you ride with a different instructor. A girl had only ONE lesson with her and then her mom (her coach) started giving her lessons and my instructor told her to get off her horse and leave. Then, they just left. I know, alot to read, but please!? Any advice or tips would be great!!!!! :)
Yikes! she is one rude person. I would definitely not be giving her a penny more, and find yourself a different coach.
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post #28 of 54 Old 07-19-2013, 11:41 PM
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post #29 of 54 Old 07-19-2013, 11:49 PM
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My trainer has brought me to tears before. She pushes you to your limits. She yells if you don't respond with enough intensity. But she's also quick to praise. She'll give you a million compliments. She'll bring things back down to where you can build your confidence. She might yell at you once, or twice, twenty times, but she does it because she truly cares about you and your horse. She's a kind woman who would bend over backwards for you, and you can go to her for anything you need for your horse. She's rough, people leave her because they can't handle the intensity...But the ones she spits out love her and she loves them.

This trainer you're talking about is a fool. You are better off without her.

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post #30 of 54 Old 07-20-2013, 05:15 PM
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Yeah I think I smell one.
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