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My trainer is so mean! I'm scared to be in the arena with her!

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    07-25-2013, 05:46 AM
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I am a tough instructor. I do not ask a pupil to do something but tell them! I demand respect. In certain situations I will shout, especially outside on a windy day.
However, I do not like anyone ending a lesson on a bad note nor feeling that they are useless or wasting my time. I cannot think of a time when I have said so to a pupil.
If someone is useless and they're paying me to teach them and I'm not getting them to progress then it is MY fault for not teaching them so they are improving.
Find another instructor to help you and tell this one to stick her head where the sun don't shine.
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    07-25-2013, 05:51 AM
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Find a new instructor.

Instructors are there to impart knowledge and should never be rude or bully or even be touch with you, you are paying for their help and services. I have a wonderful instructor that makes me work so hard that my legs and whole body are jelly at the end of it, but she is always gentle, polite and most importantly, inspiring and encouraging.
    07-25-2013, 06:35 AM
Green Broke
Please get a new trainer now! Riding should be about fun... Not stressing over abuse you get from your trainer. Good trainers should accept the fact that the riders they teach are not going to be perfect! It is her job to help you make improvements, not criticise your flaws. I am not surprised that she is losing a lot of clients... and maybe she should lose one more ;)

It seems like she is losing interest in her job and is taking it out on her clients (I have experienced something similar). Do not that attitude influence your love of horses and riding...

So again, change trainer! X
    07-29-2013, 11:24 PM
Honey, I think you need to move on. I know of a trainer that is also a kinder, milder version of what you mentioned and I pulled my daughter out. The way I looked it was this: am I training her to be a world class equestrian - if yes, I need to be willing to move to another trainer in another state or another country even to get my daughter the proper positive training she needs. If no, (and I'm not training her to be a world class equestrian), I needed to get clear in my head what the horses are for. I spend a fortune on horses for myself, too, but mostly for her and I'll tell you why. To keep her mentally healthy, teach her leadership, self-discipline, a sense of mastery, self-esteem, compassion, responsibility and confidence. To keep her away from boys and drugs, too. If that trainer does not teach her those things, or worse, tears her down, then that trainer is damaging my real investment - my child, her education, her future career, her ability to interact with other people, etc. I don't care if that trainer is George Morris and you're getting your lessons for free and all you have to do is roll out of bed in the morning and you're at the barn. You need to move on.
    07-29-2013, 11:29 PM
'The only way to beat a tyrant, is to outlast them'.......and I've outlasted a few
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    07-30-2013, 01:04 AM
Originally Posted by Muppetgirl    
'The only way to beat a tyrant, is to outlast them'.......and I've outlasted a few
....was that done with or without drinking?
    07-30-2013, 01:10 AM
Originally Posted by My2Geldings    
....was that done with or without drinking?
    08-13-2013, 02:29 PM
Find a new trainer immediately.
    08-13-2013, 11:03 PM
You should get a new trainer that treats you correctly. You don't deserve her attitude because she should know that no one is perfect... not even her.
    08-14-2013, 05:12 AM
Green Broke
Someone who insults you, your horse, your parents, makes you do something you're not used to knowing you've never done anything like it before, hates horses you look at, tells you one won't live past 18, does not want to help you... Or your horse for that matter.
You should leave there as soon as possible. Personally I would never let someone like that near me or my horse

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